Home is more than four walls and roof. Home is a door opening to you, your family, your pets, your lifestyle, your neighborhood, your community, your city. It’s all encompassing on so many levels.
A Rose is a Rose is a Rose
It’s #NationalRoseMonth and cultivating the notable English Rose in Virginia is idea for adorning your home inside and out. Here are some tips…
A Rose is A Rose...
It’s #NationalRoseMonth and we are celebrating these gorgeously, fragrant blooms with some tips.
“No matter where I roam, I will return to my English rose. For no bonds can ever tempt me from she.”
It is the month of the most famously romantic flora—The Rose. I’ve always looked at roses like engagement rings, they are pretty, but they don’t tickle my fancy say, like sapphires and peonies. However, roses hold a significant part of my memory banks and when I think of them, I think of my mother. She used to plant them when I was growing up and was so proud of them. Of course my mom can cultivate pretty much any plant on Earth, unlike my horticulture impaired self.
Over the last year, I’ve been ordering fresh cut flowers and I have been loving these decorative blooms. Some have even made lovely dried flower arrangements around the house. I particularly love the multi-toned hybrids. The rose that gets the best growth in Central Virginia is the—cue “Candle in the Wind”—The English Rose!
So, roses have genealogy as deep as our own and people take cultivating them as seriously as their breeding of Labradoodles. You’d think our roses came from Sir Elton’s home country, but actually they come from 18th century China. Now, for all of us rose dummies, the Kingpin of English roses, is cultivar David Austin. This man combined a special hybrid of old and new world roses. He’s so good at it, he created the most expensive selling rose, Juliet, selling it for $15.8 million. Shoo wee, that’s an expensive bloom sir! These gorgeous blossoms make any bridal bouquet stunning.
Are you ready to adorn your home in these fragrant and fairly easy to grow flora? Here are some tips on how to successfully do so:
Make sure it’s sunny! Roses love the sun so make sure where you plant them, they get the majority of the day basking in it.
They grow on bushes/shrubs so make sure you space them out accordingly. For the best effect, plant them about 40-45” apart. It will give it a more standout look.
It isn’t necessary, but to get best results make sure you compost and fertilize the soil to enrich it and to feed your blooms. Roses tend to grow in most soils, but for ultimate success prep your rose garden and keep the soil moist.
Soak them entirely before planting them and plant them quickly. Don’t let the bulb dry out.
Because we live in a more moderate climate here in Virginia, plant the base at ground level.
Keep them watered well during the first planting. After the first year, you can be a little more lax about the watering, taking it back to about every other day.
Remember to trim! You can prune your bushes to dictate how big you want them, but also remember to trim the blooms to make more room for others!
Decorate. Get those vases ready and showcase your girls!
Ask your local nursery for more detailed tips. Get growing!
Don’t forget to schedule your visit to Lewis Ginter Botanical Gardens for some prime Rose viewings.
National Homeowners Month
We all wish for the American Dream of homeownership, celebrate National Homeowners Month with starting your very own wishlist!
My dad is laying on the couch, a Kent King hanging from his mouth, green beanie on, newspaper in hand, football on the television while my mom’s sewing machine hums from my pink and white bedroom, altering clothes for the local department store. My brother and I just completed shooting hoops and climbing trees in the backyard and now we crave the Little Debbies! Our orange and white cat Tommy lays spread out on the orange and green kitchen floor waiting to be fed. The scenes from my childhood home varied over time. From crawfish littering the red patio out back while my aunts and uncles, Schlitz cans in hand, scuffled to Zydeco tunes, to the soundtrack from “A Star is Born” filling the house up on a Saturday morning, to the first time I watched in awe from our sun soaked living room, MTV’s first airing, that house held so many good, and not so good memories. And maybe a ghost a two. I remember that house in all its details like it was yesterday.
Owning a home brings with it the feel of the ultimate achievement. Home is where we find comfort and protection. It’s the place where we can put our feet up and dance naked. It’s the setting for birthdays, new beginnings and hopeful endings. It is our blank canvas and the expression of ourselves where we invite others to be a part of. There is nothing like coming home from a hectic day, taking off the work clothes, and sitting on the back patio, beverage in hand. Home is an extension of ourselves. I think that is why it is supremely satisfying to own one.
This month is Homeowners Month, and we want nothing more than to help you to obtain this goal. We have great lenders who will work to find you the best lending options. We have a dedicated and efficient team who will guide you through the entire process and we will all start with one thing—a dream. Your dream. Start putting that wishlist together because even though you think you can’t afford a home to call your own, ask yourself, where are you now? Are you paying $1200-2000 of someone else’s mortgage? Just sayin’. Start putting that plan in place because you CAN do it!
This month ask yourself some questions: If you already own a home, is it the one you really want? Have your needs changed? Do you even like it anymore after Covid? Are you crushing on your neighbors or has Mr. Jones’ dog driven you mad? Did you change jobs? Did your kids just graduate? Are you sick of mowing your lawn? Can you receive the long awaited guests you’ve been missing? Are you ready for a custom built fantasy? Are you NEVER going back to the office? Generational land becoming appealing to you? So many questions, so much pondering to do, but so many possibilities!
So, this month, think about what home means to you and where you want to be. We’re here if you need us! And yes, you can AirBNB the shed! You know what’s great for motivation, a vision. I too have a vision for Home Ownership, wanna see?
Who’s Your Daddy
Famous TV dads explore RVA…
Photo by: Jo Ann L. Breaux
I miss my dad. This past year was rough not doing our usual visit with each other. He resides in a very small town in Louisiana, and it isn’t always the easiest jaunt. I’m thankful for one thing during Covid, it brought me closer to my distanced family. I began a routine of calling them whilst I walked, which made me a) walk longer and b) really concentrate on having a conversation with them. I think once normalcy resumes in some capacity, we will be seeing more and more family gatherings especially with our families who live afar.
One of the things I love about our city is diversity in activity. No matter what you’re into, whether you’re a sporty dad or an artsy one, there’s something for every Father here. I decided to check out what our TV dads would do in RVA for their special day! (Click to enlarge)
Buying New Construction
Buying a new construction has a few more twists and turns than buying a renovation…
A while back, I had a nightmare of a transaction. Not my best moment as a new agent, but in this business you learn from your mistakes. My client found a home in a new sub-division and took it upon herself to investigate a new home being built there. She was determined to meet with the builder and talk plans. All great, right? You would think. I sometimes think that clients don’t understand what it is that we do as agents in representing them and this was just the case.
I took the initiative to sit down with her and the builder to talk of the plans for the new home. When she arrived to the meeting she brought her “amendments”. To make a long, convoluted and frustrating story short, she became the realtor and I became the blame for all things that went wrong due to her wanting primarily a new custom build.
Due to the lack of inventory here in RVA, contractors can’t build homes fast enough to satisfy the desire to live in prime locations with great schools. In my case, my client wanted to build her dream home in a planned sub-division. Keyword here is PLANNED. Buying a home has its process, but buying new construction requires slightly different criteria. Here are some tips to know when buying new construction.
LISTING AGENT: The listing agent works for the builder, NOT you. They are more about quantity than they are about finding you your dream home, hence why you should have a agent to help you be a liaison and communicator. In my particular transaction, I was cancelled out and both myself and the listing agent had to do a lot of damage control pacifying frustrating conversations with the buyer and the builder.
PRICE: New construction comes at a “base” price. For example, the home you want starts at $410,000 which will include certain features, but will also give options for upgrades. All those “options” add up. If you choose to go outside of the “included” fixtures.
“Builders rake in the cash on upgrades because they can get parts and labor relatively cheaply. The markup is huge, so investigate each option you're considering to see whether it would be cheaper to bid it out after you move in.” - HGTV
Decide on these things early on in the process, you should get a sheet with all the features and pricing for the vendors they stock with. Also note that in times like these, demand is high and materials are scarce which tends to up the pricing.
FEATURES. You can have whatever you want. Some builders will cater to a client’s customized build, but NOTE, having whatever you want does not mean your price will stay the same. You want gold fixtures, it’s going to cost you. You want to change the plumbing logistics? It’s going to cost you, not just in supply, but also labor. Builders tend to work with options they have already in place, you have choices, but they are determined choices of the builder’s stock. When you go outside of those choices and a builder agrees, you still have to pay for those upgrades. It is best to stay within the features list of options, fi you want that Khoeler shower head but they are using Ferguson’s, take the Ferguson. You can change it later and probably at a cheaper cost.
KNOW THE MASTERPLAN. When there are just a few houses in the neighborhood, it’s easy to envision your own little realm. It’s best to ask what the plans for the neighborhood is and all it’s amenities. Will there be a pool? How close will my neighbor be? Will I be able to build a privacy fence later? These are good to know as the community grows.
HOA: Speaking of plans, most of these communities will have an HOA. Getting those docs and knowing what will be allowed and permitted on your property is vital. Also, cost is a factor here. Are you going to be paying for full maintenance of your property or just the common areas? Will it be $300 a month or $160.
THE BUILDER. Make sure it’s a reputable builder. Do your research or have your agent do it, they should be able to see if there’s any issues or complaints about them. You also want to make sure they do quality work and work with materials that are going to last.
INSPECTIONS: Most new builds are inspected in order to pass codes and such, but it is advised that you have your own inspection as well. Some new builds also come with a Home Warranty, but some do not and your agent should make sure you are protected from any defects the home may have as well as the hardware it comes with. These inspections you provide will be more thorough.
IF you are looking for a customized build I highly suggest you buy a piece of property somewhere and hire your own builder. It is what my client should had done considering all the upgrades and changes she made to the planned construction she had purchased. Allow your agent to negotiate and advocate for you, they can give you real knowledge when dealing with new construction and know what to look and ask for.
If you are looking to buy a brand spankin’ new home, please contact me today!
Asian Persuasion
Asian/Pacific Islander Heritage Month is on it’s way and I for one am celebrating their contributions to RVA…
It’s Asian American and Pacific Islanders month and what better way to celebrate than to honor those living right here in RVA. We must start by not dismissing our plentiful Asian food culture. We are privileged to have the incredible Asian cuisine flooding our city, from the tasty Phở of Phở Tay Do to the lumpiang of Auntie Ning’s to Akida’s tasty sushi to India K’Raja’s long running lunch buffet. Whether it’s Vietnamese or Filipino, Sushi or Gyoza our Asian food options are on point, but aren’t we so much more than that? I mean we did produce Constance Wu (Fresh Off the Boat, Crazy Rich Asians) (big up to my alma mater!), but we have other notable Asians in our community who are contributing other talents, awareness, politics, advocacy, and businesses to RVA.
May Nivar
There are many significant people who donate to RVA’s success and accomplishments, enlightening those on the inclusivity and cultural awareness of our fine home. Individuals like May Nivar who is chair of the Virginia Asian Advisory Board. She is also the founding chair of the Asian & Latino Solidarity Alliance of Central Virginia and serves as a Richmond chapter member of the Virginia Center for Inclusive Communities and all their members, including Justin Lo (left). Justin is Associate General Counsel, Financial Services for the Virginia State Corporation Commission and a restaurant critic for the Richmond Times-Dispatch. Justin has helped voice inclusion and diverse cultural references in food criticism. In addition he has shred his experiences with discrimination in the current climate.
I can go on and list all of the resident Asian and Pacific Islanders who contribute to RVA (there’s a ton), but I’d rather focus on who I know and have known throughout the years who have enriched Richmond life for me and others through friendship, connection and inspiration. I’m proud to call them “my people”.
Photo by: Devin Bousquet
Anthony Meñez, my lifelong comrade who is a talented graphic/web designer, illustrator, cartoonist, and sketcher and hosts RVA’s annual Zombie Walk contributing funds to the American Cancer Society. Anthony is incredibly dedicated to his crafts and is a member of the 7 Hills Scooter Club here in Richmond. He also sings a mean Depeche Mode.
Sunny at Raindance Film Festival
Sunny Zhao, a true storyteller and visionary. He is an ward-winning film director and musician. His film company Dreams Factory has done several advertising and branding campaigns world wide. His feature debut film, Gift (2018), received accolades and was 2018 and 2019 Official Selection for Richmond’s International Film Festival. He and I share a love of cars and beauty of imagery.
Photo: MARK GORMUS/TIMES-DISPATCH
Sae and Stephanie Ahn, my trustworthy dry cleaners. Since 2006, this brother/sister duo has been in the business of cleaning, mending, and storing their customer’s clothing. What makes them so great? They have a hydrocarbon solvent-based dry-cleaning machine which makes them an Organic dry cleaning business, making it better for the environment and their employees. Mmmm so fresh and so clean!
Faisal Qureshi, another friend from my high school days. He is partner at Chaplin & Qureshi whom I recommend frequently for my real estate transactions. In addition, Faisal also practices in the areas of civil litigation, and commercial litigation.
Dr. Thanh (Tanya) Giang Sargent, my fellow Freeman High School classmate who is not only super smart (hello PHD in Molecular Biology), but is a Research Professional and Educator, teaching in Henrico County Public Schools. She also can rock a shaved head like no other and makes awesome videos for her students.
Satori Poch, Licensed Acupuncturist, Herbalist, Dipl. O.M whose practice, Comfort Acupuncture introduced me to the healing effects of acupuncture and Chinese medicine which has significantly helped me with anxiety and hormonal issues.
Photo by: Peter McElhinney
The Staff at Fusion Nail, these people are salt of the Earth and do an amazing job at manicuring the nails of Richmond. I cannot say enough great things about them and what they do.
Ana Douangdara McCubbin, one of the most gorgeous people I’ve known for 25+ years. Ana is owner and creator of Eleven 25 Studio. If you need customized art, hand lettering and this and that for personal, business, weddings, showers, home, etc, she’s your girl. Ana has a fantastic eye and creates sweet artistic pieces.
Rachel Leyco, Richmond musician and owner/event designer of EQ Events. Rachel has graced the stages of RVA for over a decade and recently released her new album last year. She’s just truly a talented person with a great soul and a love for craft beer!
Prabir Mehta, you’re very Richmond if you know who this individual is. Musician and non-profit warrior, Prabir is one of the most intelligent and talented people I know and has contributed much to Richmond society including these notable institutions, Gallery5, The Science Museum of Virginia, Science Matters, Gather, WCVE/PBS, Classical Revolution RVA, The Omaha Conservatory for Music, The Enrichmond Foundation, and many others.
It's Picnic Time!
Celebrate National Picnic Day with these spread worthy spots!
On the 23rd of this month, we will celebrate National Picnic Day! The pandemic has got more and more of us eating al fresco and we are fortunate to have so many beautiful places to lay out our spreads. With the weather reaching optimal temperatures, finding choice spots are in demand as well as finding restaurants specializing in perfect outdoor eats. Whether romantic, luxe, or family fun, RVA knows how to provide a basket worthy backdrop. I’ve collected a few to help you out on your adventure!
Choice Picnic Spots
We have many parks littered about RVA, but I find these to be the most pleasant for your picnicking fun.
Maymont: Never disappoints with its vast areas for laying about amongst the trees and animals.
Forest Hill Park: It’s rolling hills and the James make a perfectly serene site.
The Church Hill Lookout: intimate and view worthy, you may want to find the perfect time to bring your honey
Libby Hill Park: City and River views worth taking in blanket-side
Three Lakes Park: Walk around the lakes, visit the Nature center and grub out with the kids
Crump Park and Meadow Farm: Nice spots at the pond or enjoy the historical working farm grounds
Hollywood Cemetery: Eating with the dead isn’t so morbid, enjoy gorgeous views of the James at peace
University of Richmond: The campus is perfect for picnic by the pond and even a nice stroll afterwards
Picnic specials and delicious sandwiches and sides
Fill your basket at Sally Bell’s, an old time favorite!
Picnic specials and eats like your grandma used to!
Stella’s Grocery has every delectable to make your basket worth sharing!
A unique 2-wheeled experience!
Looking for an impressive spread, Picnic RVA has you covered.
So, You're Getting a Divorce...
It’s an ugly word, but it doesn’t have to be an ugly process…
Yeah, it’s not words we want to speak of, unless you’re super happy about going your separate ways. Covid has definitely put a magnifying glass on many marriages and the result has been revealing. Nobody likes divorce. It’s hard and it’s emotionally draining, no matter if it’s amicable or a knock down dragged out fight. One thing is for sure the last thing you want to think about in all of it is selling your home and you might not have to, but you may definitely want to.
Divorce is quite a common motivation for a listing, and because it is so common, Agents see a lot of the same things. For example, more than likely one person is chomping at the bit to sell and the other is less motivated. Why even get rid of the property? Simply put, a lot of couples want a fresh start or don’t want to be reminded of the life they built there. In the end, you’ll both have to work together to see it through. The ultimate goal is for you both to close one chapter so you can start another.
“Your dreams don’t have an expiration date.”
An Agent. Picking the right agent to sell your home during this time can be an obstacle. You might not want to use Sally Doolittle who helped you both buy the current residence. You may want to use someone totally neutral and unknown to make things fair and straightforward. You might want to use one agent to sell and another to buy. Whoever you both decide on, make sure they are clear on the climate they are walking into. That agent should also be empathetic and patient, sometimes they will need to have two separate meetings. They should be communicative and also thick skinned to deal with runaway emotions not intentionally sent in their direction. If they are a good agent, they will be intuitive, willing to listen, and help mediate.
“You cannot start the next chapter of your life if you keep rereading the last one.”
Listing Prep. This is the hard part. Nobody wants to do it—the cleaning, the packing, the purging, the rummaging through lost memories. It’s hard, especially if you’ve been there for a significant amount of time. Allow yourself to work through the process. Make sure to give yourself some time to take a break and a breath when you need to. Chances are, one of you has already moved out, which will make things slightly easier, but if not, maybe delegate some tasks so you aren’t in each others faces if it’s awkward or hostile. Also, your agent should be able to help you schedule things like cleanings, landscaping, and repairs.
Time. The sooner the better right? Not always. In this market it wouldn’t be too difficult to get a sooner closing date. Most closings happen in 45 days but these days it can be sooner depending on your loan process. You might have a situation where you need to work on selling one property to be able to buy/move into another. There are also the pros and cons of selling before and after you’re divorced that could potentially delay the divorce itself. You’ll have to decide on what’s going to suit your situation, and also be the most cost effective, efficient, and amiable.
Children. This is also something to consider when you decide to sell your home during a divorce. Sometimes it’s less painful to sell a home to maintain normalcy for the kids, but other times it’s better to have everyone just start anew. Also, moving with kids (depending on age) can be tumultuous when deciding on school district changes and maybe needing assistance if it’s a sole move, so you can have time to go through things without any distractions.
In the End comes a New Beginning. Take it from someone who is a divorcée, it is hard no matter what and adding the loss of a home is another piece that’ll rip you apart sometimes. You may not want to buy a new home, you may want to get yourself that new single person rental in the city you’ve been dreaming about or maybe you want to test out some new neighborhoods you’ve been curious about until you feel you can commit again. Getting the biggest buyout would be an ideal way for you to get the home you’ve always wanted, shoe closets and all! You now have some options and that’s the positive part —the blank canvas.
“Divorce is a declaration of independence with only two signers.”
No matter what the end entails, including collecting the half proceeds from the sale of your “marital home”, you get to start over. You get to have the basement bar you’ve always wanted, or the art studio free of storage items you’ve dreamed about. You get your own space with new paint, new art, new furniture and all while blasting that record they hated you listening to for the past 15 years. Sure, all wounds take time to heal, but it doesn’t have to be all painful. The most important thing to remember is to be communicative, be willing to work together one last time, and keep the end goal in mind —a new beginning.
Time to Shine
With just an inkling of rising temperatures, it’s the time when we emerge from our cocoons and start giving the outside of our homes the attention it deserves…
I do believe we will be spending another Spring / Summer in limited social capacity. Yes, I too am over it. While some of you will take the chance to leap onto greener pastures through travel or masked frolicking, others will now start to plan their warmer weathered activities.
As I stare at the dead plants upon which I adorn my stoop and porch with, I can fairly say my gardening skills are less than stellar. Cutting grass for me is quite enjoyable as I see it taking the place of my wasted gym membership (which I’m still paying for by the way). We broke down and forked out a stimulus check to get a pool worth wading in while basking in the Summer heat. It got a little messy in our backyard to say the least. This year, I want to create an inviting, pest free space. A space that doesn’t denote the hint of unemployed and overfilled recycling bins, one that says, “Hello, welcome to our Summer bubble, won’t you come in and enjoy this lavender flavored iced tea.”
All that being romanticized, we have a large yard. Last year I broke down and got my own landscaper who mulches, weeds, and takes care of anything that will put us in the “trashy” category. I also recalled last year’s heavily booked schedules for landscapers, painters, gutter cleaners, powerwashers and roofers. So here’s your little reminder for all those wanting that luxurious looking curb appeal to get on the books now! Here are a few I’ve used who provide excellent service. I recommend one that provides a membership-like schedule.
Landscapers
Arborists
PowerWashers
Gutters
Handy Repairs
In addition to yard primping, Spring cleaning should be on the list as well. Think about how long you’ve been inside, living, working, playing in your home. Also, a great Mother’s Day gift *wink *wink. A good deep clean will refresh your home for the new season and what better way to eliminate any wandering virus potentials. These cleaners are Covid safe and will give your home that sun shiny clean it’s been waiting for!
In addition to yard primping, Spring cleaning should be on the list as well. Think about how long you’ve been inside, living, working, playing in your home. Also, a great Mother’s Day gift *wink *wink. A good deep clean will refresh your home for the new season and what better way to eliminate any wandering virus potentials. These cleaners are Covid safe and will give your home that sun shiny clean it’s been waiting for!
My Best Cleaners
Some other improvements/refreshes to make during this time:
Resealing/Painting of Decks
Painting the Front Door a New Color
Updating your Roof if Needed
Ordering Maintenance for Your HVAC Units
Buy your Above Ground Pool NOW
Get New Cushions for Your Outdoor Furniture
Paint your Fences
Call Me to Do a Walkthrough for Listing Your Home!
Let the beautification begin! For any all recommendations visit:
Away with Romance
Valentine’s Day is fast approaching so get to planning and fall in love, rekindle, romance, and let Virginia take you in its arms!
I think it is quite safe to say, we are over being at home all the time. I think even introverts would agree on that to some extent. Valentine’s Day is usually littered with fancy dinner dates and broken hearts club outings, but this year is obviously lending itself to more creative adventures. For all of you looking to get out of town on a romantic rendezvous or something different, here are some suggestions.
Primland Luxury Mountain Resort
Meadows of Dan, VA
If you’ve got the money to spend time with your honey, this is well worth it. Secluded with the Blue Ridge as your backdrop, this getaway is privately delicious. You can rent a treehouse, luxury cabin, or cottage. There’s plenty to do here as well. From horseback riding to an ATV adventure you and your partner will relive those honeymoon days.
Cabin in Fancy Gap, VA atop the Blue Ridge Mountains
Mountains, Lakes, Rivers, and Beaches Oh My!
One thing I’ve learned during Covid is that exploring Virginia has been the highlight of it all and cabin lodging is not only romantic, but also serene, more importantly it doesn’t have to be beaucoup expensive. Why not stay in someone else’s home for a change. There are so many beautiful lake houses and rustic cabins surrounded by nature and beautiful scenery, how could one not find the romance in that?! Check out Holiday Homes for availability.
Book a Personal Chef
Want a five course meal and restaurant feel? Book a personal chef for the occasion and you never have to worry about listening to Karen complain about her steak not being well done.
Book a Room at The Jefferson Hotel
Go crazy and stay in RVA at The Jefferson. Premier packages are available for you and your honey to lounge, dine, and bed in luxury.
Kick it at Dover Hall
This place is amazing and for a unique stay with the utmost in beautiful lodging and grounds book a room at Dover Hall and partake in their V-Day dining experience.
Cheap Date RVA
RVA is the best wingman! If. you are looking to treat your sweet, but need not to spend that entire stimulus check, start the day off with grabbing some local coffee and pastries, head to Tiffany & Co (yes, a la Holly and Paul) cue Moon River on the phone. After, head over to Forest Hill Park or Hollywood Cemetery for a nice stroll. If it’s too wintry outside, get over to the VMFA and peruse the art while playing hide and seek with your person. Dine for brunch at Amuse and enjoy the view and the mimosas! Time for a nap? Yes, head over to your RVA AirBNB equipped with indoor fireplace to light the mood up to romantic, play that game of chess or Scrabble you never have time for and don’t forget to order the chocolates from Chocolate by Kelly! Have dinner delivered or picked up and dine by candlelight. DO NOT use your phones during your mini dates unless you are taking photos! On Monday you’ll feel relaxed, loved, and cared for by your city.
Virginia is for Courting
Our rocky past has grown into a great love story…
Photo by: Stephen Poore
Dear VA,
I’ve been reminiscing about how we came to be since it is a time of devoted reflection. Do you remember when I met you in 1986. We didn’t hit it off right away. You tempted me with beautiful scenery and a good school, but you also had these weird phrases and your cooking was terrible! I was forced to be with you and so we did not begin in the best of times.
I finally got rid of you after so many on and off again romances. In 2005, I decided our toxic relationship would offer me nothing but a warm barstool and another dead end job, so I ended it and left you for good (or so I thought). For five years I put you behind me, but we still had a connection that my love affair with New York could not fulfill. The fates had other plans for us and as New York left me cold and abandoned, I sought refuge in your arms.
It took me about a year to feel comfortable within you, but as I acclimated with old friends and familiar surroundings, it was your new personality that began to woo me. You had new people in your life from bigger cities like NYC, Dallas, and Los Angeles. You were wearing new clothes shedding the Commonwealth khakis of old. You showed me what it was to discover new territory with parks and landmarks I hadn’t visited before. And then, you gave me great joy satiating my appetite with culinary delights and beer, lots and lots of beer. You started building boutique hotels and gave my friends success in new buildings and businesses. You brought song back into my life with new local musicians and venues and gave me new haunts to meet new people and visit old ones. All the things I hated about you before, you replaced with charm, nostalgia, and hope, but most of all you gave me a new love.
Our union has grown a lot since reluctantly returning to your border 10 years ago, and I am now quite proudly crossing your bridges, strolling your landscape, and seeing you for the first time. It has given me much joy residing in your beautiful city of RVA and providing diverse neighborhoods, thriving communities, and cool things to do. I think you and I have a great future ahead of us…now if you could only stop with the roundabouts, segregated classes, and people obsessed with the Confederacy, you and I can finally ride off into the sunset.
xoxo,
Lady J
Looking for Love in All the Right Places
Are you ready to fall in love?
She and I met when I was about 5 or 6 years old. She had an iron wrought gate surrounding her as though she wore a choker from the 1800s. Her color was pale blue and her two tiered porches wrapped around her waist as though she donned a lace trimmed ball gown. Her eyes were dark, but her lids came in a myriad of brocade colors and her steeples pointed to the heavens with such grace. She was a true beauty, and my dream for a long time.
I used to pass this house on my way home from school in my small hometown of Crowley, LA. I loved that majestic home, untouchable and hiding so many stories within its walls. It was the first home I ever can remember dying to live in. Fast forward 30 something years, and I’ve had a few crushes here in RVA, but none have drawn me in the way that gorgeous Victorian of my childhood did.
Falling in love with a home requires a true connection. When you are looking for the perfect match, there are some things to consider…
Attraction. What’s she wearing? Is it a ball grown or is it a little black dress? Does it wink at you when you drive by or does it tighten up when you approach it’s gates? We all have some sort of architecture we love whether it’s the warm coziness of a Bellevue bungalow or the stately Colonials adorning the near West End or the grandeur of Monument Avenue’s Classical Revivals. No matter what you love on the outside, that love at first site thing is real when it comes to house hunting. Her outsides are the first thing you see. You may be attracted to her country porch, her picturesque face, or you may be tempted with her manicured lawns and meticulous landscaping.
It’s What’s Inside that Counts. I’ve seen several unsuspecting homes. They don’t initially catch my eye as I’m driving up, but then I go inside and that’s where she gets me. Some people are attracted to flooring, some to unique details, and others to particular rooms. For me, I’m drawn to unique quarters like libraries and secret lounges. Yes, I know this is a higher expectation, but if I have to settle, I’ll settle for falling in love with a kitchen and/or bathroom. She could be a high class gal adorned with granite countertops and the most up to date appliances or she could have original floors and an antique vanity. I think a lot of people are looking for a home that meets a less cookie cutter image, something that feels more personal. You want the love of your life to stand out from the rest, no? Aesthetics aside, there’s something more important than looks…
That Warm and Fuzzy Feeling. It all comes down to how she makes you feel. When you open her door can you see a future? Do you feel warm or do you feel as though she might spit you out when you try to change her? I’ve had clients walk in and immediately walk right out because of an initial vibe. No matter how pretty she is, if she doesn’t give you the warm and fuzzies, it’s not for you. I don’t ever want to force my clients into falling in love with something they don’t want to marry. I encourage people to take in a home, walk around it, glide your hands down her banisters, lay in her tubs, lean on her counters, check out her surroundings, and visit her at night. Then ask yourself, Is she loving you back?
Not every home is going to be The One. You could find one that is Fun for Now, but not marriage material. The most important thing is not to be rash, but to take some time and get to know her, find out all you can about her, learn about her history and how she’s grown, and make sure she doesn’t have any baggage that’s going to come up later.
I pine for the day I can walk into a home and say, “This is my forever!”. Until then I’m still dating around, trying to find out which one is worth my investment. What about you? Have you fallen in love yet? Are you ready to make a commitment? I’d love to hear more Love Stories, feel free to leave a comment.
For the Love of Home Questionnaire
What was the first home you fell in love with and why?
See Above and also because I really love historic homes.
What was the first home you cohabited in? You know, your first love nest?
We’d been dating for well over 3 years and although he was at my house pretty much every day, we didn’t officially move in together until 2002. 3 S Vine. A small one bedroom apartment that I fell in love with because it was updated and the location was stellar. We ate at The Lighthouse a whole lot! The thing I loved about it the most was that we lived there alone — no roommates!What was the home that got away?
I have house regret. There was this beautiful house in the near West End that my friend lived in. When she moved away they put it on the market and I wished I could have bought that lovely house on Kensington.What is the decor you are crushing on currently?
I’m really digging vintage style wallpaper. I think seeing shows and film influence my style choices. Ever since I watched Sharp Objects, I want all of that! I am also digging the Art Deco style that has made a comeback. The colors in particular, I just love moody, lush colors.What is your home breakup story? The home you miss the most or the home that brought you nothing but heartache?
It’s not necessarily a “home” in terms of the construct you live in, but the home I miss the most is New York, funny, it the home which has brought me the most heartache as well. I do miss it’s vibe though!What is your favorite place you LOVE to be in at your house and why?
Our bedroom. I love how dark it is and yet how bright I can make it. I also love our front porch which makes for a great way to get to know your neighbors.Was or is there a neighborhood you LOVE the most?
Yes, this one. Ginter Park and Brookland Park has been my favorite place to live in RVA. I love it so much! Its walkability, its business owners, its friendly neighbors and the homes are incredible and historic.What is your favorite piece of furniture?
Right now it’s the album holder which was custom built by Tom Brickman. In the future I hope it is velvet chaise I hope to attain.
My Cousin Vintage
Vintage is the new trend for 2021 and I couldn’t love it more! From vintage cameras to art deco mirrors to jade glass vases, giving your home a new luck can cure any lock down.
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WHAT YOU SAID
• Vintage Fabrics for pillows, curtains, etc.
• Taxidermy
• Fenton Hobnail Glass
• Bar Carts
• Hat Boxes
• Pie Safe
• Black & White Photos
• Bar Carts
• Postcards
• Vintage Ads/Magazine Cover Art
• Old Radios, Cameras, Typewriters, Gramophones
• Crochet
I like the sleekness of modern things. The design itself is quite attractive, but to me it lacks depth. It’s like your cousin who wears a Japanese designer whose cuts are as sharp as a chef’s knife, while you prefer the texture, richness and tradition of Chanel. Don’t get me wrong, I love modern design, but preferably not in my home. I’m more of a Refined Industrial gal, I love textures and richness in a room, but I also love traditional pieces that have a history. I’ve always had a love of vintage, even as a child I recall an affinity for homes that had a timeless appeal. Vintage is my go to when I want to start a conversation. The nice thing about vintage decor is that it can incorporate different eras. Some people will continue to love their mid-century credenzas while others will venture to find a Victorian style vanity. I sometimes think I was born in the wrong era.
It is predicted that 2021 will highlight vintage home decor and I couldn’t be more thrilled. Oh to find an oil rain lamp or 1950’s bar cart. We are seeing a revival of art deco styles with peacock plumage and gold trimmings, but because Covid has changed our living spaces, you’re going to find more neutral and earth tones as well as deep moody hues. You can compliment those styles with some really nifty finds around town. I was actually shocked at how many of these local shops there were to accommodate such tastes. What a nice discovery!
So, while we are still cozied up at home, perhaps 2021 will get you motivated to restyle your living and working spaces. A good refresh will change the entire mood of your abode which will lead to inspiration, freshness, and motivation. Items like old typewriters, vintage farm tools, art deco style mirrors, or antique trunks bring a cool nostalgia to any room.
If you are looking for more architectural pieces to add to your home, look no further than Caravati's Inc or Governor's Architectural Antiques. You’ll find unique, historic and detailed fixins from clawfoot tubs to newel posts to ironworks. I have found some beautiful ornate woodwork at these places, including beautiful mantles to transform any den/living room.
Sometimes you can find these things in thrift stores or estate sales, but here are a few vintage vendors here in Richmond to check out:
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68 Home Studio
BRICK ALLEY CO
MIDCENTRIC
SHEPPARD STREET ANTIQUES
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THROUGH THE GARDEN GATE
Welcome to a New Dawn
Welcome to a New Year with a future on the horizon…
No, this isn’t a Twilight reference, but rather one of hope and embarking on a new beginning. Will you join me?
We are finally at the end of this, excuse my French, #@&%$# of a year. Some people might think, ooo the clock just went past midnight, cue triumphant music. Sorry to say, but we aren’t out of this mess yet. What we are in is a new transition into something different. We have learned new things about how we live and probably who we are. I for one learned many a thing during this time. From what a slob I can be to improving communication to getting pretty creative with my meals. So, if anything, this time has provided growth and growth leads to progress leads to a better way of living, etc etc etc.
So what the hell does this have to do with buying and selling houses you ask? Forecasting a new year is difficult. Forecasting a new year during a pandemic, well it’s cloudy if anything. Home sales for 2020 will top the previous year with an 8.1% increase in median home sales.* It is predicted that the market will continue to be strong in 2021, and inventory will continue to be scarce, just as mortgage rates maintain their historic lows.
It’s a mixed bag of sorts, but one thing is for sure, needing a home is definitely in demand. Demographics are changing as some are extending families and finding new occupational paths, others are wanting different floor plans, and home improvement has seen a significant increase. Contractors can’t build houses fast enough to compensate for the lack of housing, and with increases in costs of production materials and lack of labor, there has been some constraints on new construction. As I said before, I think it’s a perfect time to be putting together that hopescape and making it happen.
To summarize, once the pandemic is over we can breathe again, literally, and open ourselves up to new possibilities. I don’t do resolutions when a new year arrives. It puts too much pressure and high expectations. The older we get, the more change becomes difficult, but what I like to do is take all the assets of the year before and apply them to improving the next year. Here are a few things I do plan on doing during 2021.
More virtual tours. I’m planning on showing you all houses on my own, in different neighborhoods, so you can stay safe. I will be available for physical and private tours adhering to all the precautions, but I thought it might be fun to explore and show you all houses on my own accord. I’ll showcase two or three a week.
Neighborhood Profiles. I’m finally getting this together for the website. Every month I’ll spotlight a different neighborhood in RVA and it will talk about the area from what’s near to architecture to history. I’ll be including photos and videos and interviews of actual neighbors from those areas.
Putting the Sweet in Home. Stay tuned as I reach out to local businesses that incorporate all things home, including decorators, designers, builders, and landscapers.
Lend An Ear Happy Hour: I’m planning on having a bi-weekly Q&A with a lender and myself to answer any questions you might have about buying a home and what lending options you might have.
I think I can handle this task list. I do want to continue to support local businesses and urge you to do so as well. I plan on doing what I can for my communities and neighborhood. It’s a good time to plan out some neighborhood clean ups, offer tutoring services, look after pets, and donate meals to healthcare providers and elderly neighbors. It’s a good time to work on your health regiment (a la Rebel Wilson), take more bubble baths, read more books, watch some documentaries, listen to more podcasts, play with your kids, play with your partners, have a road trip, plan for the future because you may never have this contemplation time again, well let’s hope we don’t have something like this jar our world again. This is temporary folks, the chaos will end and will be replaced by bigger and brighter things. So embrace the new year, burn the last one, and let’s move forward to better ways of living.
Quarantine Chronicles: Dream a Little Dream
When the rental or the home you reside in becomes stale or you’re ready to dream of home ownership, do NOT think it impossible!
I woke up today, staring at the ceiling, looking at the four walls which surround the most sacred of places — my bed. I walk downstairs and drag my slippered feet to the kitchen, opening the cabinet to get my mug for that first morning sip. My counter is cluttered, there is literally some sort of appliance or kitchen utensil covering the length of it. I cringe. Oh yeah, look up at the top of my fridge where I find my step-daughter’s pumpkin from Halloween overfilled with candy she may or may not indulge in. I open the freezer, that is stuffed to the gills with minimal items, my frozen container of pomegranate seeds comes sliding out, only to hit the floor in sudden death. This is where you just sit on the floor depressingly eating the fruity carcass, gently sobbing, “WHYYYYYY?” Why is my fridge not bigger? Why don’t I have enough counterspace to become America’s Next Top Chef? Why must I look at these drab walls? You know, questions to start off your typical Monday morning.
I’ve lived in the house for almost three years. This will be my 34th rental in my 47 years of existence. I’m embarrassed by the fact that I’m a practicing real estate agent, but have never owned my own home. As I peruse Pinterest boards, watch DIY home improvement videos from some guy named Todd and sigh at watching Galey Alix design dream roomscapes on her TikTok. Sigh. It can get depressing, especially right now with our current pandemic crisis. I keep thinking will I ever attain the dream of owning my own home and what is it exactly preventing from doing so?
Truth be told, it’s unfavorable living in someone else’s home, paying someone else’s mortgage and having to live with someone else’s interior. There are times when I want to take out a wall or have an extra room. There are times I want a bigger kitchen or a better landscaped backyard. The dream of home ownership weighs on me heavily. So, I’m doing what a lot of people are doing right now —making a plan.
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The Timeline
The first thing I’m going to do is figure out a feasible timeline to make my dream happen. For some it’ll be six months and for others it will take a whole year. Think about your credit, your job, your current situation. If you are already in a good place (yeah you, you adult!) then think about when you want to make that move and what is going to required of you. Are you renting? When’s that lease up? Are you owning? What improvements do you have to make to get the most value out of your home to buy a sweet new one?
The Wish List
This is my favorite part. The part where i get to have a list of criteria of all the desired features in a home I want. After living in so many locations from architecture to community, I know the exact things I don’t want in my living space (water pressure is everything!). So when you are making out your list make sure you are covering all details, not just room size and bathroom count. Think about your must haves and hell no’s:
Will I be able to add any structural expansion to this home? If you needed to add an in-law suite or a working garage, do you have the room?
How many ways can I rearrange my furniture? You’d be surprised how many renovated homes have one, maybe two ways to rearrange a room. Rearranging rooms, adding furniture, changing styles are all ways to refresh a home, especially if you are also spending a whole lot of time in it.
Am I walking to Wawa and Kroger or am I enjoying the culinary delights of sitting at an outdoor cafe. Check your neighborhood experience. Some people like the views of stroller lined streets while others prefer the beauty of tree lined ones.
Are you sick of mowing a large lawn? Maybe you want something more low maintenance, like maybe a strip of grass.
No touching! Do you want bedrooms that kiss each other down a hallway or would you rather have them across from each other? Do you want to hide from your children or do you want to hear all that Fortnite chatter? A simple layout plan can change your whole living experience
Do you want that washer and dryer upstairs or downstairs? I personally like to fold and watch my stories at the same time!
Just how close am I to my neighbor? Do I want some distance there? Can you borrow sugar or would you prefer an ATV to get to your neighbor’s house?
Money, Money, Money.
If you are anything like me, money is always the one factor which deters me from my dreams. I find it hard to invest in myself and it hinders a lot of planning. To be perfectly honest, I’ve struggled most of my life financially for many reasons. It took me a really long time to find a career I could actually be successful at. It’s really strange that I can look at my bank account and see savings in there. Maybe you’ve been on that track too. Some of us didn’t have the trajectory of having a 401K and a white picket fence. So, what do you do when you want to buy a house, but don’t have the best finances?
Meet with a Lender or a Financial Planner: This will help you have a plan and one to stick with. They can tell you exactly what you need and how much to put away to get it. Sure, it might take a year, but if you are disciplined and follow the plan, it can happen for you. Usually, it’s as simple as putting away a little stash or paying off a debt.
Research: You’d be surprised how much help you can get when buying a home. There are grant programs and homeownership assistance programs you can qualify for. If you are a healthcare provider, teacher, or “hero” worker, you an also qualify for special loans in addition to first time homebuyer benefits.
Open a House Account: Go to the bank and open a bank account just for housing costs. Start collecting, not just for the house itself, but also for all the things you’ll want for that house, right down to the new dishes. It will give you a goal to focus on and if you just put a little away here and there, you’d be surprised how quickly buying a home can be a possibility. So skip DoorDash tonight, you don’t need yet another pair of yoga pants, put it in the kitty.
Look, but Don’t Touch
Even if you are not ready, looking at homes will give you incentive and inspiration, plus, it’s fun! It will give you a good idea of loves and undesirables. It will also give you a goal financially. Are you looking at $150K houses or $250K? I find that the amount of homes I look at bring me to certain conclusions like, “Hmm, seems the renovation work being done in this particular area isn’t very good” or “it’s the same kitchen over and over again!” You might decide that new construction is the way to go. Here are a few tips when you start out.
Go to open houses. Two reasons: You get ideas. You might see something that’s desirable in a home that you may not have seen before. You may have thought you wanted an open floor plan, but then you have discovered a formal dining room with pocket doors is quite lovely. This is a good way to test out all those things and get inspired without feeling pressure to buy. You can go in and be breezy with a “just looking” attitude. The second reason being if you don’t have a realtor, it’s a good way to interview and get a feel for some with casual conversation. I like to tell people finding a good fit is like finding a good date, if they are easy to talk to, approachable and most importantly knowledgeable, those are good options. Bring a notebook or something to take notes, video, take photos and grab business cards while you’re there so you can look back and add to your vision boards.
Bring a contractor or someone who knows construction with you if you can. This way you can learn what is good construction and what to watch out for when you are investing your money. Some realtors are good at pointing these things out, but some may not have enough experience regarding house builds or renovation features, such as quality, so sometimes these things get overlooked. They might also have insight on costs, especially if you are looking at an older home that’s in your price range but needs some work.
Look in unfamiliar neighborhoods. This doesn’t work for everyone if you are looking for a particular school district per se, but some of these districts are large and sometimes certain subdivisions get overlooked. I love exploring hidden neighborhoods because you never know what gems you can find in them. Take time to walk in them, talk to the neighbors, and see what’s around that could add to your living experience.
Get in the mindset that not every home is going to be a brand new or a complete renovation. Remember when people used to buy houses that other people use to live in? I think some people have gotten used to seeing renovated homes as the standard in homebuying. You could be missing out on homes that have a lot of character and ability to be worked with if you are only looking at reno homes. I showed a couple an old 70’s style ranch they thought would be hilarious to see. It turned out to be the exact floor plan they were looking for with some cool features that could be showcased with a little work. They were pleasantly surprised about the possibilities of a lower priced un-renovated home.
Are you excited now? I am! I can’t wait to put my plan in place. Sometimes it takes just a little hope and imagination to fulfill a dream, an investment, a change. And as always, let me know when you get started, I’m happy to guide your way!
Pass the Gravy, the Year is a Bit Dry
I’m giving thanks to an unlikely source this year…
It’s about that time of year again where we thank our people and we express our gratitude for the things we have. I think it should be practiced everyday — saying thanks, but I know this holiday is reserved for such appreciations. I find it to be a day of mourning really, but I can also find the light of being with family…hm, yeah this year is looking a little slim in that department. I’m basically going to make a nice meal for my immediate family and give blessings to those who have given and sacrificed a lot so that we may eat, drink, and be merry.
There are many things we can be grateful for at Thanksgiving. As I will gaze upon a leafless table this year, missing my Aunts and cousins as we battle for the most backhanded compliments, and my fiancé struggles to translate the abundance of conversations in Spanish around him. “They are talking about me, aren’t they?” I will zone out and continue to imagine a Manhattan waiting for me down a long gravel road. I’ve never been one for holidays, or getting together with family for that matter. I end up exhausted, feeling bad for myself or pissed off. Thanksgiving in particular is not my favorite of American traditions, however I love a day off of work.
This year will be quite different, for when the time comes to give thanks, i will be grateful for an unlikely source — Covid. Now before you gasp in disapproval, or want to hand me to the loony bin, hear me out. Sometimes Aunt ‘Rona needs to come in and upset the table on its end so we look at the mess we need to clean up. I don’t think there is any denying that we have been given an emotional, financial, occupational, mental and historical mess this time year. We’ve been routinely sitting at the same table for so long that we pass the potatoes with assembly line precision, that the taste of turkey, cranberries, and yams seem to have no difference. Now, this American tradition we hold so dear has literally become — dangerous, I cannot miss the irony here.
So while I’ll miss the three separate trips to families homes, the incessant need for my Aunt to comment on my weight, love life, or dress, or my step-father’s niece showcasing her recent “augmentation” at the dinner table, colorful as it all is, I’m thankful for the disorder Aunt Rona has made. As I will look down the table from my first sitting at its head, I would like to bow my head and be truly grateful for these truths:
Thank you, Covid, for time. Time to do more physical activity which had not been present in the last five years. Time to take walks and call my distanced dad and brother more frequently which I take for granted sometimes. Time to text my family overseas to send a little gif or meme and say hello. Time to educate myself in subjects I’ve always been interested in, but never found the time to read about. Time to explore my city and my state finding hidden gems everywhere. Time to save money for the home I’ve always wanted. Time to do my job better and be more creative. Time to bring my Aunt to her doctor’s appointments and get her groceries. Time for road trips and new adventures. Time to reconnect with long lost friends that I’ve loved from afar. Time to love my neighbors by helping them take care of their homes and our neighborhood. Time to purge and cleanse the past. And mostly, time to dream. Time to dream about my future and my quality of life.
Thank you, Covid for bringing lasagna to the table.
I truly believe that chaos comes before peace. There are so many things I can be grateful for including my clients I’ve had an opportunity to build relationships with, and while they get a seat at the table, there are others we should show our utmost appreciation for:
Our exhausted healthcare workers. I have friends on the frontline and I do not think they have had to work harder in their lives. We must continue to give them praise for the work they are doing.
Our educators. I think we’ve seen the challenge they’ve been given and their dedication to our children is apparent. They deserve a lot more than they’ve been given.
Our neighbors. The kindness which has stemmed from this time is remarkable. From delivered goods to mowing lawns to walking pets, it has been nice to receive and give these acts in such a dark time.
So, thank you Covid, as I show respect and honor to those who were here before us and those who have contributed to the well being of others and this planet, let us not forget the true essence of home for the holidays. Let’s be grateful for those moments we take for granted and let’s take this time to work on our progression so that we may all sit together again in peace. Now pass the rolls, it’s cheat day, we have 4 seasons of The Crown to binge and let’s be truly thankful for the one thing I think we can all agree on — this year being almost over.
Quarantine Chronicles: Camper's Delight
Having fun in the woods and getting away to waterfront havens…
It amazes me what happens when you are faced with a challenge. Some people rise up to it, while others let it defeat them. Most people take challenges and make them into opportunities. It’s prime time for creativity and maybe trying some new things.
When I was a kid we camped out of an RV in the woods or at Holly Beach which has been pretty much battered by hurricanes. I remember fishing with my dad off of piers in morning Louisiana heat while my mother got flustered with the amount of snakes she caught. She remedied it by feeding the alligators. My mom is no stranger to the wilderness as she basically grew up in the jungle and my dad on the bayous of Louisiana. I however prefer cabins and a proper latrine. Camping has otherwise been my least favorite vacation option for fear of creatures crawling in a tent I cannot get out of, a mask serial killer lurking in the woods, or creating my own Blair Witch scenario. Not a fan.
This weekend, with Covid still affecting the way we as a family spend time together prompted my Mister to book a campsite. As you can imagine, my anxiety kicked in, but I realized that memories like these will last a lifetime with a precocious seven year old. So, he signed up for HipCamp and away we went to — Dinwiddie, VA??
We left later than scheduled (per usual) and we arrived after a long gravel road where many trucks and what looked like a mini salvage yard. We were greeted by our hosts Kirstin and Dale, she with a glass of wine (my kind of gal) and he a tall thin man who made sure the coals on the fire were hot to warm us. We were not expecting the campsite to be as close to the main house as it was, but as with all things, don’t judge so quickly. Once we got all our things in order and could finally sit and relax, the Harvest Moon above us shining bright, you could begin to see the mist on the creek. Our hosts hung out with us for a minute and then retreated inside, leaving us to make some food and relax.
I do love nature. I love the sound of waves on the ocean, the crunching of leaves in the forest, and the serene beauty that can come from it. I forget to appreciate it and this weekend would prove to bring that awareness back to my senses. I also just enjoy the simpler things in life sometimes. As the little lady explored the grounds, I kept thinking how great it was that she could just be happy without a screen in her face. We were surprised at location, we had no idea a large property in Dinwiddie could bring us such an experience.
My Mister and I talked over the fire one night about our hosts. Who were these people who lived on 100+ acres with salvage items in their yard, lots of trucks, and had a good sized machete? How strange it must seem to have strangers stay on your property while you enjoy the modern conveniences of your home. Sometimes I feel like our minds have been tarnished by technology and the new media, it puts us on edge before we even assess a situation. There were a lot of firsts this weekend. It was our little lady and I’s first real camping trip, like in a tent and all! She also caught her first fish, rode in a canoe for the first time, and I think it was all our first times in Dinwiddie. And in all these “firsts”, the thing that made the most impression was sitting around by a fire with our hosts and talking. Just telling stories, swapping experiences, conversing about current events and what we all do for a living. It was a camp fire convene worth having. You realize in these moments that this type of connection is valid and the warmth it brings is more comforting than any fire. Even our gal was sharing her life with these strangers and it was a beautiful thing to witness, she has been so timid in recent pasts with people in general. She even asked Mr. Dale if she could go out with him as he set out to fish in the morning. She played in leaves, put her feet in the water, caught a grasshopper and spent time with lines in the creek with her dad.
It truly was just a peaceful and serene weekend that replaced our Covid cancelled nuptials. Kirstin and Dales hospitality was off the charts and we were happy to spend time with them on their beautiful property and 11 acre lake. Just perfect. So, for all of you feeling the pressure of unemployment, of unpredictability, of the news, the election, the virus, the murder hornets, the social unrest, the racism, the fires, the world…do yourself a favor, get you and / or your family and find yourself gazing at stars you usually can’t see, frolic through meadows, canoe in a lake, go fishing, listen to the pop and crackle of a fire, or look up as the trees begin to the release their foliage. You might even consider buying a piece of your own rustic getaway.
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Quarantine Chronicles: Ghosting on Halloween
The scariest thing this year? Well there’s been a ton, right? Halloween can still be celebrated and you can still have some spooktacular ways to get those treats in…
Photo by: LadyJRVA
I don’t know about the rest of you parents, but i have a 7 year old who has been talking about her Halloween costume since June. Obviously this is going to be really difficult on the kids. I’m sure there will be plenty of Halloween block parties and people risking the virus taking their kids trick or treating, I mean they are wearing masks anyway. For all of us, who don’t want candy collectors and our kids to be exposed going to random houses, there are some ways to enjoy the holiday and give your kids a bootastic evening.
Have a Zoombie Party
Gather their friends and exchange some scary stories. Vote for best costumes. Get the kids to write a song and share.
Have your own Halloween Party
Gather those in your “bubble” and have a fun time with costumes and spooky drinks. Have a pizza making event or a candy scavenger hunt. Make some phantastic cookies! Don’t forget the scary movies!
Do a Drive By
If you are hosting children for Halloween, leave little pumpkins with candy and some hand sanitizer out so they can grab and go! Have a halloween caravan with fun decorated signs and streamers. They can hang their bags/pumpkins outside the car window and be greeted by some great costumed candy distributors.
Have a Socially Distanced Halloween Picnic
Throw some blankets out in a wooded area or open field with treats or do it in a backyard with a projection screen for some fun scary movies! Have a bonfire!
Have the Treats Delivered to You!
Get someone you know to dress up and deliver treats to the house. You can say a a spooky guests will be stopping by for a surprise.
Set Up a Spooktacular Table
Have a walk up table filled with little baggie or mini pumpkin treats with hand sanitizers available. make sure you mark some six foot lines in sidewalk chalk to keep things distanced.
Have a Teaching Moment
Take this time to teach your children other country’s Halloween traditions, ie Día de Muertos or Samhain.
No matter what you decide this year, just make sure you are safe and protected. Be creative and take this moment to connect with your kids. Talk about what scary to them, read them stories, make decorations or food. There are so many ways to celebrate the holidays safely and heartily!
Bienvenidos a LatinoAmerica
Today embarks our month long celebration of National Hispanic Heritage Month, so I thought I’d start off with my birth country…
Today embarks National Hispanic Heritage Month. With over 12,000 Latinos in RVA and 10% of Virginia’s population, there is no denying we play a role here. I am a proud Panamanian and although I have a variety of blood in these veins, Panama is my heritage, my birth, my family. I thought to celebrate this year, since the vibrant events of the city, such as the ¡Qué Pasa! Festival are cancelled, to educate with some fun facts about Latin American countries. Each day I’ll post a new country with some notables. Enjoy and take this month to support your Hispanic owned local businesses, here’s a few to get you started
All of our Latin Restaurants of course
Do yourself a favor and look up these countries travelogues on YouTube, you’ll learn even more!
Photo from Lata Travel
Paraguay
I love visiting countries off the beaten path and apparently Paraguay is one of them. Corazón de América (The Heart of America) is an undiscovered gem of dusty deserts and tropical delights. The Itaipu Dam provides almost all of Paraguay’s electricity.. Dueling is legal in Paraguay as long as you are a registered blood donor! Guarani is first language of Paraguay and is the only South American country to adhere to its linguistic origins, but Spanish is also an official language there. This country was a safe haven for Nazi’s at one point, just as Argentina and Brazil, and strangely it has a large Mennonite community. The first railway was developed here; during the 1800’s there were many European engineers planted in the landlocked country. Paraguay is also known for it’s lacework, harp music, and the traditional bottle dance (la botellera). They love sipping on their Mata tea and enjoying Chipa (cheese biscuits). The Iguacu Falls are breathtaking and are taller than Niagra Falls with 275 individual waterfall cascades. They have the cutest rodent ever, Capybara! It has been listed in the Guinness Book of World Records as the largest BBQ (30,000 attendees). The indigenous Aché peoples still inhabits Paraguay and have suffered many hardships from early Colonists and those wanting to destroy the rainforests. You can find pockets to Russian, German, and Japanese communities within Paraguay due to the migration of those fleeing during wartimes. Friedrich Nietzsche's sister, Elisabeth helped plan and create an Aryan community called Nueva Germania, but fortunately it failed miserably.
Cuba
It is on my list of destinations, and although all of my Cuban friends are close and dearly admired, I so long to be in the warm sun of this nation untouched by time. This well-read nation (99.8% literacy rate) has one of the best healthcare systems and houses the largest medical hospital in the world. You can indulge in ropa vieja , but you can’t get a Coca-Cola since it is banned. That’s not the only thing that was banned in Cuba, for 30 years Fidel Castro abolished the Christmas holiday as a recognized event, declaring Cuba an atheist state. Cuba is home to the smallest bird in the world and 400 islands and cays, how could you not enjoy this cigar famous nation in all its sand and sunshine. Santeria is widely practiced here and the African culture is sprinkled throughout its cuisine, music, and culture. This Communist nation was not allowed to buy computers or cell phones as of 2008! Can you imagine, but making $44 a month is worse I’d say, not even the free healthcare and education can make up for this. There are a lot of cool vintage cars though, and about 70K doctors! Although Obama opens up American travel to Cuba in 2016 and then a year later Trump shuts it back down, but I do hope to visit this beautiful culturally enriched country in my lifetime.
Uruguay
My uncle was a diplomat here and I’m familiar with their fútbol team (yeah Suárez!), but other than this I know little of this second smallest nation in South America. This livestock infested country and home to the world’s first FIFA World Cup, and boasts the lowest poverty in South America. Marijuana trade has been legal in the country since December 2013. The cost is approximately one dollar per gram. They don’t use numbers on their residences, but use names instead! Although Uruguay is made up mostly of rolling plains and low hills, there is still the Atlantic coast and is surprisingly completely out of the tropics. It is quite a non-religious country and boasts a 6 minute National Anthem and has a large Italian influence. It was also the first nation to legalize the home cultivation of marijuana and weirdly enough banned salt from restaurant tables and schools. Crazy! They also love their gays and their dogs, it is illegal to harm any canine in the country.
El Salvador
Not only is my sister-in-law from here, but it is also home to Lake Coatepeque, a large volcanic crater lake. El Salvador is quite cheap to travel within and is littered with small cute towns which can be found on la Ruta de las Flores (Road of Flowers). El Salvador is referred to as the Land of Volcanoes and the terrain ranges from beach to tropics to mountainous areas. A gorgeous country to explore and travel off the beaten path. Surfers love coming here and eating pupusas, the national dish. This super friendly county’s denizens are referred to as “ guanacos”.
Bolivia
Bolivia mesmerizes in land and water, this hat wearing country boasts the tallest heights and pink river dolphins! It is the highest country in S. America (12,383 ft above sea level) and has the largest salt flat in the world, Salar de Uyuni. Along with part of the Andes, salty landscapes, Bolivia also has the deepest and tallest lake (Lake Titicaca) in the world. Bolivia hosts a hotel, Palacio de Sal, completely made of salt! Known for the traditional sandwich, Chola, Bolivians also consider guinea pigs a delicacy and eat cured llama. Raquel Welch is Bolivian, ding ding. People dress like Zebras to help with traffic and children to cross the road there. Bolivia was part of the Incan Empire and the purchase of dead animals is common for citizens to use as offerings to Mother Nature or Pachamama. Cal Orko has over 5,000 individual dinosaur prints. Whoa. Lastly it is home to the most dangerous road in the world, Yungas Road or Death Road killing 200-300 people a year.
Panamá
It’s not just the canal that Panamá is known for, it is a wonderland of tropics, volcanoes, and exotic wildlife. There are untainted areas and pristine white and black sanded beaches, yet it has a majority of its population within the capital city. We’ve had one Miss Universe, a female President (1999) and Vice President (2014), musician Reuben Blades and boxer Roberto Duran both hale from Panamá, aaaand lastly Van Halen’s song is about a car not the country!
Pictured are Kuna Indians famous for making Mola
Photo by: Robert Harding
National Flower of Panamá: The Holy Ghost Orchid - See the Dove!
Traditional Panamanian Folk Dance
Venezuela
The women of Venezuela are world renown, 7 Miss World titles, to be exact, but other than their beautiful women, this country is known for much more than its pageantry. Unfortunately this paradise has been in turmoil in recent times, but Venezuela’s territory is the most protected in the world at over 50% conservation. It is terrible that a place so gorgeous is so dangerous, not just with unrest, but also one of the most dangerous places to drive. Like other Hispanic nations, Venezuela does not like a drunk voter, prohibiting the sale of alcohol 21 hours before an election. It has the highest waterfall, Angel Falls and the Orinoco (Yes Enya, yes) flows here into the Amazon basin. It is a Christmas tradition to roller skate to mass on Christmas day. Venezuela is quite electric in that it is home to Relampago del Catatumbo where there is an everlasting lightning storm. And lastly, you can decide which of the 900 flavors of ice cream you want at Coromoto Ice Cream Shop.
Costa Rica
The Sun rises and the Sun sets at the same time every day here on the rich coast of Costa Rica. You can expect to live a long and happy life in Costa Rica due to the amount of Calcium and Magnesium in the water, centurions are not uncommon here. A surfers haven, Costa Rica has been a holiday retreat for a lot of Americans, some who have bought property to enjoy the coastline and the vast rainforests. A land of orchids, CS boasts 1,400 different species of the flora and is one of the most eco friendly nations on the planet. Ticas (women) keep their maiden names for life and Ticos (men) have no problem openly whistling, staring or catcalling women. Once again, another nation of free education. Costa Rica has no standing army and is a fully democratic nation. There is no mail delivery there and they must get the mail themselves. This surfers’ haven hosts 801 miles of coastline, you wouldn’t find me anywhere else! Although I’ve never met a Tica or Tico from CS, it being one of the happiest nations, it’s no wonder that it's denizens remain there. There are 7 active volcanos and its land is adorned with over 100 volcanic formations. It is a gorgeously biodiverse country and although it used to be quite affordable, Americans have been the result of higher prices, but you can still find affordable things to do there.
Colombia
One of my besties is Colombian. I work with Ana Ines King of the Latin Ballet of Virginia and her sister, they are Colombian. I have two other clients, both are also Colombian. I guess you could say I know quite a few of them…and I love them! Maybe it’s because Panama & Colombia were joined at one time. These people LOVE to dance, making it the salsa capital of the world. Colombian, Shakira knows what’s shakin’. It is also a place where street art is encouraged and sponsored by the government. It is the world’s leading producer of Emeralds and although known for coffee, it is not native to the land. They are, however, the 3rd biggest exporter of it in the world. This Spanish drenched country’s natives were killed by disease brought by the Europeans and what was left embraced Spanish culture. Colombia is incredibly diverse in culture and region, class and age are among status symbols. Don’t forget to order your Bandeja Paisa, the national dish, which coincidentally can be found here in RVA at La Bodega!
Dominican Republic
In 2003, I went here on my honeymoon. I cried when I had to leave after my 8 day, 7 night Punta Cana bliss. DR is gorgeous, with the warmest people and the most beautiful terrain to explore. Dominicans are a baseball nation (Alex Rodriguez, Albert Pujols, and Sammy Sosa. to name a few), DR is also known for it’s golf courses. It is the most visited destination in the Caribbean and their Blue Flag beaches are breathtaking. If you are in the armed forces or the police, you are not allowed to vote. They export the most tobacco and they have the cigars to prove it! It is quite a religious nation, banning abortion and having the bible adorn it’s flag, I mean, it’s named after a patron saint after it was called Hispanola. It houses the oldest cathedral in the Americas (1540). They are the sweetest country making sugar their main industry as well as producing some fine rums and vanilla. And when you are not dancing Merengue you could be enjoying a Presidente their delicious coffee. You would have probably seen Jack Sparrow from time to time in DR, as it was the headquarters for pirates.
Chile
Home to Easter Island, Chile boasts an incredible topography of mountains, islands, desert, and beach. The oldest mummies are found here and the largest swimming pool in the world! Chile is the fourth largest wine exporter (thank you) and the seventh largest producer of wine in the world. The country produces 90% of the world’s potatoes with 286 unique varieties. These people love their food and they love bread. Chile is the second highest bread consumers in the world There are 500 active volcanoes and the driest desert in the world. And the best fact about Chile — officially funded and recognized UFO research bureau!
Honduras
Despite Christopher Columbus’ “discovery” of Honduras, you can see many artifacts of the ancient Mayans here. Honduras is home to the second largest coral reef and is a haven for scuba divers. It has the oldest clock in the world (1100 AD) and is also host to the Hieroglyphic Stairway of Copán which features the largest single text in the world allegedly. Honduras is a savage country, beautiful in terrain yet can be quite dangerous to visit with the presence of The Mara Salvatrucha gang whose tattooed members can be found throughout Central America. Also known as the Banana Republic, you can also enjoy such meals as Yuca con chicharrón or Baleadas. The Talgua Caves or Caves of the Glowing Skulls are a hidden attraction and gets its name from the reflection of the human skulls found here. Don’t mess with soccer here, the country is fervent when it comes to the sport and even engaged in a 100 hour war with El Salvador over it. It is a beautiful country trying to overcome its recent reputation and its poverty, but the people of Honduras are warm and friendly.
Quarantine Chronicles: The Hardship of Self
Tired of being tired? Times are tough and you may be feeling fatigued, anxious, and alone. I’m hearing you. Here a few things you can do to make you and others feel better.
September is the month we observe self care and self improvement. I’ve been in my house the majority of 2020. Although my businesses should be booming over the spring and summer months, it’s been at ease to say it best. I’ve had a nice even flow of clients which I am forever grateful for, but not the volume I have come to expect during this time. I’ve also had to leave my house for three funerals and my brother has been sick twice in California with suspected Covid infections. This has been a most difficult climate and an obstacle most Americans have never felt before. Most my friends have been on edge with the current events and to say our relationships have not been changed, well…that’s an understatement. I’m sure you are tired of the back and forth, the angst, the sadness, and the all around general feels of what I can only describe as a global s•itstorm. I know I am. I’m not here to reinforce that, but I am here to tell you I can empathize and that we all must remember to take care of ourselves and find strength within ourselves.
For those who cohabitate with others in their dwellings, I hear you! Truth is, we as humans should have time to ourselves without the constant pulling on apron strings and a realization that your partner may not have the healthiest of habits. Our homes are suppose to be where we feel safe and free, but I feel during the pandemic the walls have closed in on us for numerous days, weeks and months and having our partners and children all up in our business has been less than ideal. Yes, moms I know you’ve been hiding in the walk-in with a bottle of vino.
For those who are single, this is also a time of severe loneliness. We are social creatures who thrive on the connectivity of those around us. The weight of not having someone to cuddle with, to watch movies with, or to dine with can be overwhelming and one can become unmotivated by the boredom that has replaced social gatherings. Sure, you can put on a mask and brave the outside world, but some of us have lost the ability to hold a conversation and to be honest, it’s not very fun trying to get to know people when you look like you’re about to rob a bank or play Mortal Kombat.
What does this have to do with real estate? Not much unless when we examine the property you are currently inhabiting and how it is affecting your mood. I know that if you are anything like me and the Mister, idleness creates anxiety and a lack of purpose can stir feelings of depression. After a handful of Zoom happy hours, I miss the din of sitting at a bar or restaurant, I also miss the intellectual stimulus I am accustomed to encounter. I know we are almost six months into this thing and In normalcy, a lot of us have our days filled with responsibilities and tasks keeping us occupied, so it’s challenging to sit with oneself and reflect in the quiet. So here are some things I put together to maybe help you all cope and maybe ease the monotony.
Home Improvement
Just like self improvement, caring for where you live can have a remarkable affect on your mood. If you can’t sell your house, make it better so you reap the rewards of selling it later or just to refresh it.
Rearrange furniture. I personally like to do this every six months, but unfortunately my home is limited to where I put things. I will tell you it breathes new breath into your living space.
Put a fresh coat of paint on the walls, that’s right, paint it that rich blue you’ve been imagining.
Buy a new sheet set. Amazon and Wayfair have some beautiful and affordable prints that will reinvent your sleeping quarters, plus you‘ll feel nice and fresh in a newly decorated bed.
Prepare your yard for Fall and Winter. Make room for a nice firepit you can enjoy or add some lighting you’ve been thinking about to create some magic back there for those crisp eves.
Clean the outside of your house. Get those shutters and window sills dirt free. Maybe put a fresh coat of paint on your door and change up the face of your entry way by adding some Fall decor or add some string lights to the porch. It’ll help you feel less cooped up indoors.
Get your chimney cleaned. Replace your air filters. Get your oil tanks filled. Who wants to be cold this winter?
Change up your wall art. There’s so many great DIY projects for home decor on Pinterest you could do. It’ll give you something to work on for the weekends and also add some new visuals for those empty walls.
Education
I have taken an opportunity to learn during this time. I’ve watched documentaries. I’ve signed up for FREE Coursera classes. I’ve taken an online dance class and I added Duolingo to my phone so I can practice my Spanish. When you learn, you stimulate your brain and it makes you feel confident. So learn something new!
Take an online class. Whether it’s a dance you’ve been wanting to learn, a new skill, or some sort of academia you want to delve into, there are a TON of FREE resources for this. Expand your mind, you’ll feel ready for some deep conversations when this mess is over.
Ladies this is a perfect time to figure out how to change tires, check and change oil, and build something. Misters, you can use this time to learn how to do the same!
Get on TikTok. Sounds dumb, I know, I was reluctant, but it changed my mood. So many positive messages. There’s real people, you don’t know, across the world who are crying and struggling to reach out and connect and they are funny as hell. Everyone has a story and this is a great medium to learn about different cultures, and also to bond with others who really are going through the same things you are.
Learn a new language and a new country. There is seriously no time like the present to do this. Download a language app and get to it, you may want to travel somewhere amazing after this and this is good prep for you.
Color. Once again, sounds stupid as an adult, but it has been proven to calm. There are plenty of adult coloring books out there.
Communication
It’s key! Some of you are loving that you don’t have to be so connected and that’s great, but maybe we can practice other forms of communication. This will alleviate some of the loneliness you could feel.
Date. That’s right, date. This is the best time to date someone. Find a person you can get to know, slowly and through conversation and do it in the medium you choose, whether it’s through the written word or through photos (guys keep your pants on) or through voice and video. Give each other assignments like create a photo scavenger hunt with items you can see their soul through. This is a time where it doesn’t have to be an expedited array of expenditures and rushed connection. My advice, find someone you’ve been interested in and reach out. A simple hello could lead to a future “wanna quarantine together”, Love in the Time of Corona is a real thing.
Family. Now more than ever we miss our families. Make sure you gather with them remotely or just a quick call/email/text. My relationship with my brother who lives in California increased 10 times fold during the pandemic. I walk, he talks. You can also create more intimacy between you and your partner by sharing stories, maybe do your own bookclub, dance and listen to music together.
Call a friend you haven’t talked to in ages. We all get separated through life, but as you remember some good times, hit that person up and say hello. You’ll be like two teens from the 80s chatting and catching up on your lives.
Start writing. Whether you keep a journal or a blog. Write. It’s therapeutic and a great way to see your inner self.
Send a postcard. Send someone a handwritten postcard. Instead of waiting for Amazon, wouldn’t it be nice to receive some actual correspondence?
Take a Spa Day
Seems on trend I know, but set aside a day and do it. You don’t even have to get dressed, but I promise after a day of pampering yourself you’ll feel pretty good!
Get your favorite products from face masks to nail polish to beard wax to foot soaks and do it. All day. Get your robe out, fill the tub with bubbles and enjoy. Find a podcast, an audio book, or hell, get an actual book and read. It stimulates your mind and also relaxes you. I’ve learned so much from Radiolab in the tub!
Get a massage at home. There are a few home massage therapists who will come to your house safely and work on you.
Order in. Order a meal you haven’t had in a while from your favorite restaurant and put it on plates and eat at the dining room table. You’d be surprised what a difference it makes. Don’t forget the candles!
Exercise
Endorphins. Endorphins. Endorphins. The more you get them the better you’re going to feel. It’s like Elle Woods says, "Exercise gives you endorphins. Endorphins make you happy. Happy people just don't shoot their husbands, they just don't."
Take a walk in a neighborhood you’ve never been in before and explore.
Go to a park you’ve always wanted to go to.
Try biking the Capital Trail for a little while.
Take a day trip to the mountains and go on a nice hike.
Take a Day Off and Do Nice Things for Others and Yourself
When you do things for people, it feels good, rewarding. There’s lots of people out there who are not in a good place emotionally or financially, but a nice gesture would give them the world. As for you my friend, if there is anything I’ve realized during this time it’s I don’t need to work 60 hours a week to feel successful (as I write a newsletter taking me all day). We’re in a pandemic, take a load off sometime.
Take one day a week where you unplug. Stay off of social media. Don’t read or listen to the news. Start with cooking yourself a nice breakfast.
Listen to an album in its entirety and really listen to it.
Talk to a neighbor. Bring them over something, even if you don’t feel comfortable talking to them, leave it on their front stoop with a little note to say hello.
Instacart groceries or send a meal over to someone.
Offer to walk your neighbors dog
It’s the perfect time to get those Holiday cards ready (could this be the year for me?!)
Clean. Something as simple as cleaning and organizing your home for one whole day can be so satisfying.
Clean up your neighborhood. Go out and find an area and clean up the trash in it. Find a neglected community center or neighbor’s yard and mow lawn. Drop off some purged items to your local charity or church.
Spend the day getting to know your child. Interview each other, you’d be surprised how fun and rewarding it can be for your relationship. Do the same with your partner, play a game with them, I’m currently learning how to play chess with mine.
Write down those things you want to be better at and actually work on them. I have a habit of leaving shoes everywhere and drawers opened, not anymore, ok maybe sometimes. I’m working on how to be more organized, so every day, I organize one thing, today it was my filing cabinet.
Depression is no joke. If you are feeling depressed, you should always reach out to someone you can talk to, but do try and love yourself, now and always. Work on you during this time. Ask yourself questions like, “Am I happy?” “What are my dreams and how can I fulfill them?” “Is it time to get a pet?” “Do I love my job?” Start thinking about your future and how you want to emerge when it’s over. Make that vision board. Do things you enjoy doing. Dance naked in your house. I don’t know, just do you! This cocooned living isn’t going to last forever, so take advantage of it. These hard times won’t always be here. This is the time to make the changes needed to come out better and stronger. Nothing lasts forever and this won’t either.
So take care of yourself, not this month alone but in the upcoming months where we aren’t really sure where things are headed. You’re not alone. I’m right here!
Quarantine Chronicles: Class is in Session
Class will soon be in session. Are you and your child prepared for a semester of learning experiences?
Alright parents, you’ve got about a month to prepare for the colossal upheaval of your child’s schooling. After talking with some parents who are going through the horror of working from home and also home schooling, it was apparent to me that there should be some guidelines for those needing some guidance when it comes to virtual learning and setting up your home learning centers.
Make sure there are no distractions. Young learners need consistency and structure. Make sure the space you put them in is free from distractions like TVs, iPads, Video Games, etc.
Create a space for them. Include things like a good table/desk to do their activities at. Organize all their school materials using shelves or cubbies so they can find them easily. Make sure they know to put things back where they found them so it stays nice and neat and teaches them to take responsibility for their own materials.
Schedule. Make sure they have a consistent schedule every day so they know when to work and when to take a break. Get them a special clock or set up an alarm to ensure they are moving through the day with full activities.
Download materials for them. There are some wonderful websites where you can download and print material to further their curriculums.
Do not interact with them while they are in “school”. Don’t disrupt the schedule. Keep them focused on their work so you can do yours.
Eat lunch with them. This will help you stay connected and create a nice little family break with them, you can ask them about their day and what they are learning so they feel like there is some separation from home and school.
Make sure they go outside. Give them a recess time for them to play outside, it’s important for them to get some energy out so they can concentrate when they come back to learning.
Make sure your teens are staying on track instead of social media’ing their way through the semester. Take away cell phones while class is in session, and although, they don’t require a specific work station, you might want to check up on them from time to time to make sure they are actually working. They will soon understand what your life has been like!
Some of you might not have the space or money to create a learning center in your home. Here are some easy fixes to ensure your student is getting the space, quiet and materials they need.
Check Facebook/Craigslist/Next Door for desks , chairs, tables, and rugs.
Make sure it is separate from you.
Decorate the space with Maps, Science Facts, People in History, etc.
Make sure there’s enough space for them to do arts and crafts.
Be prepared for this space to get a bit messy!
Make sure you find some sort of storage unit for their materials.
Check out your county websites for more resources and information regarding distance learning. Check out my Pinterest page for other ideas!
