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Who’s Your Daddy
Famous TV dads explore RVA…
Photo by: Jo Ann L. Breaux
I miss my dad. This past year was rough not doing our usual visit with each other. He resides in a very small town in Louisiana, and it isn’t always the easiest jaunt. I’m thankful for one thing during Covid, it brought me closer to my distanced family. I began a routine of calling them whilst I walked, which made me a) walk longer and b) really concentrate on having a conversation with them. I think once normalcy resumes in some capacity, we will be seeing more and more family gatherings especially with our families who live afar.
One of the things I love about our city is diversity in activity. No matter what you’re into, whether you’re a sporty dad or an artsy one, there’s something for every Father here. I decided to check out what our TV dads would do in RVA for their special day! (Click to enlarge)
Mother MAY I?
Being a Realtor mom has it’s challenges, but the rewards are far greater than any career I’ve had…
I remember coming home from school and putting the key in the door to let myself in. Mom hadn’t been back from work yet, but once she did, she was confronting a pile of stacked up clothes to be altered for the local department store. All day long she was at the manufactory sewing hems on suit pants. She worked long, painful hours and there wasn’t a lot of times for stories or playtime with her. Her impeccable work ethic had a lot to do with her Panamanian-Chinese upbringing and I grew up with her advising that I save ever penny, “You never know what’s going to happen, so be prepared.” Those words have echoed in my head for a lifetime.
Since I'm a broker and flip houses my world can feel upside down some days. I've learned to hire people and trust they will do as good as a job as I would. Take me time without guilt and I'm still learning to say no when needed. Honestly, I love challenges and instant gratification in everything I do. So real estate hits all the Hotspots. Plus, who doesn’t like the financial freedom from the investment side. I'm teaching my kids generational wealth and breaking generational curses. - Joan Small, RVA Group Realty
I never had children unfortunately, I do however have a step-daughter who doesn’t understand the stretch of a dollar or what it is to struggle to eat every day. What I do have the luxury of is giving her my time. I’m able to pick her up when I need to, to hang out and play with her when she wants and take her along to open houses. She is seriously the best PR rep I could ask for. Being in Real Estate allows a lot of women to have full careers, make ends meet, and have time to be there for their kids. I couldn’t imagine giving my kids the fair treatment and time they deserved while working in advertising or being a paralegal. I cannot tell you how many times I had to stay after hours to meet some ridiculous deadline, and if I decided otherwise I may have not have had the career I strived for. The American Dream—work hard, move up the ladder. Let’s be frank here, that tends to be a bunch of horse poop.
“At first it was super challenging to be a mother and a realtor. After being a full time mother and yoga teacher, adjustments had to be made for the whole family. Like many working moms I felt some guilt about juggling my time and it was hard for me to prioritize. Over time we have all adjusted and I have learned to switch gears and be present with my family when I’m with my family and be present with my clients when I’m with my clients. Yoga helps a lot! It has definitely provided our family with some extra opportunities that we are grateful for and I really do enjoy finding people homes in a city that I love. “ - Kelly Trask, One South Realty
I have loved my new career in real estate because it gives me personal freedom. It is a job where I’m accountable and I am my own boss, but most of all, it is a job I am able to make my own time. There are some downsides to that as well as I’m sure every realtor mom can relate to. I’m only a part-time mom and I’m sure my experience is different than my full-time mama duty colleagues. Weekends can be difficult with showings and open houses. Also, you have to consider your clients’ needs. If they want to see a house in two hours, you have to be able to accommodate those schedules, and sometimes plans are broken at home. I think we all struggle with saying no sometimes in addition to putting boundaries in place. There is the reward though, to be able to take a vacation for a week and literally be present or to be able to take a day and focus your attention on your children rather than being tied to a desk is a great feeling that not a lot of people have the privilege of experiencing.
It gave me opportunity to accommodate my schedule and arrange it around my husbands so that always one of us would stay home with the kids while they took online classes. As time went by and market got crazier it got a little bit more complicate it because even though I can still accommodate my schedule it seems like I’m never home, no weekend, anytime any day, I can’t really make plans ahead of time because I have to be there for my clients. - Daniela Queen, RVA Group Realty
Kids are hard. They just are. We as agents work from our home offices a lot of the time and sometimes it’s hard if you have little ones scurrying about while you are trying to write a contract. I have some realtor friends who are incredibly strict with setting boundaries for their businesses because they don’t want any interference into their home life. If you are making a lot of sales it’s easy to have that priority, but i you are an agent starting out or not as busy, it can be very difficult telling your client you can’t meet them at 6pm because you are having dinner with your family, in your head, you don’t want to lose them.
The challenges of mommydom and being an agent are, to me, far less than other careers. You do have the ability to maneuver schedules and be effective/productive remotely. The key is to organize and prioritize, find a schedule that works for you so you can spend time being a mom and a great agent. We’re women, we can usually get our lipstick on while on a conference call, flipping pancakes and packing little Johnny’s lunch, all while wearing heels. And this is why we make fantastic agents. Kids also make great helpers in our business, they love to pass out flyers, drop off popbys, and they come up with the best suggestions for rooms.
So, to all my Mama Bear Agents, you’re doing a great job and remember that the rewards of this career will allow that Disney vacay or that European trip you’ve always wanted to take them on. Now you can go back to your superheroine’ing.
Buying New Construction
Buying a new construction has a few more twists and turns than buying a renovation…
A while back, I had a nightmare of a transaction. Not my best moment as a new agent, but in this business you learn from your mistakes. My client found a home in a new sub-division and took it upon herself to investigate a new home being built there. She was determined to meet with the builder and talk plans. All great, right? You would think. I sometimes think that clients don’t understand what it is that we do as agents in representing them and this was just the case.
I took the initiative to sit down with her and the builder to talk of the plans for the new home. When she arrived to the meeting she brought her “amendments”. To make a long, convoluted and frustrating story short, she became the realtor and I became the blame for all things that went wrong due to her wanting primarily a new custom build.
Due to the lack of inventory here in RVA, contractors can’t build homes fast enough to satisfy the desire to live in prime locations with great schools. In my case, my client wanted to build her dream home in a planned sub-division. Keyword here is PLANNED. Buying a home has its process, but buying new construction requires slightly different criteria. Here are some tips to know when buying new construction.
LISTING AGENT: The listing agent works for the builder, NOT you. They are more about quantity than they are about finding you your dream home, hence why you should have a agent to help you be a liaison and communicator. In my particular transaction, I was cancelled out and both myself and the listing agent had to do a lot of damage control pacifying frustrating conversations with the buyer and the builder.
PRICE: New construction comes at a “base” price. For example, the home you want starts at $410,000 which will include certain features, but will also give options for upgrades. All those “options” add up. If you choose to go outside of the “included” fixtures.
“Builders rake in the cash on upgrades because they can get parts and labor relatively cheaply. The markup is huge, so investigate each option you're considering to see whether it would be cheaper to bid it out after you move in.” - HGTV
Decide on these things early on in the process, you should get a sheet with all the features and pricing for the vendors they stock with. Also note that in times like these, demand is high and materials are scarce which tends to up the pricing.
FEATURES. You can have whatever you want. Some builders will cater to a client’s customized build, but NOTE, having whatever you want does not mean your price will stay the same. You want gold fixtures, it’s going to cost you. You want to change the plumbing logistics? It’s going to cost you, not just in supply, but also labor. Builders tend to work with options they have already in place, you have choices, but they are determined choices of the builder’s stock. When you go outside of those choices and a builder agrees, you still have to pay for those upgrades. It is best to stay within the features list of options, fi you want that Khoeler shower head but they are using Ferguson’s, take the Ferguson. You can change it later and probably at a cheaper cost.
KNOW THE MASTERPLAN. When there are just a few houses in the neighborhood, it’s easy to envision your own little realm. It’s best to ask what the plans for the neighborhood is and all it’s amenities. Will there be a pool? How close will my neighbor be? Will I be able to build a privacy fence later? These are good to know as the community grows.
HOA: Speaking of plans, most of these communities will have an HOA. Getting those docs and knowing what will be allowed and permitted on your property is vital. Also, cost is a factor here. Are you going to be paying for full maintenance of your property or just the common areas? Will it be $300 a month or $160.
THE BUILDER. Make sure it’s a reputable builder. Do your research or have your agent do it, they should be able to see if there’s any issues or complaints about them. You also want to make sure they do quality work and work with materials that are going to last.
INSPECTIONS: Most new builds are inspected in order to pass codes and such, but it is advised that you have your own inspection as well. Some new builds also come with a Home Warranty, but some do not and your agent should make sure you are protected from any defects the home may have as well as the hardware it comes with. These inspections you provide will be more thorough.
IF you are looking for a customized build I highly suggest you buy a piece of property somewhere and hire your own builder. It is what my client should had done considering all the upgrades and changes she made to the planned construction she had purchased. Allow your agent to negotiate and advocate for you, they can give you real knowledge when dealing with new construction and know what to look and ask for.
If you are looking to buy a brand spankin’ new home, please contact me today!
Asian Persuasion
Asian/Pacific Islander Heritage Month is on it’s way and I for one am celebrating their contributions to RVA…
It’s Asian American and Pacific Islanders month and what better way to celebrate than to honor those living right here in RVA. We must start by not dismissing our plentiful Asian food culture. We are privileged to have the incredible Asian cuisine flooding our city, from the tasty Phở of Phở Tay Do to the lumpiang of Auntie Ning’s to Akida’s tasty sushi to India K’Raja’s long running lunch buffet. Whether it’s Vietnamese or Filipino, Sushi or Gyoza our Asian food options are on point, but aren’t we so much more than that? I mean we did produce Constance Wu (Fresh Off the Boat, Crazy Rich Asians) (big up to my alma mater!), but we have other notable Asians in our community who are contributing other talents, awareness, politics, advocacy, and businesses to RVA.
May Nivar
There are many significant people who donate to RVA’s success and accomplishments, enlightening those on the inclusivity and cultural awareness of our fine home. Individuals like May Nivar who is chair of the Virginia Asian Advisory Board. She is also the founding chair of the Asian & Latino Solidarity Alliance of Central Virginia and serves as a Richmond chapter member of the Virginia Center for Inclusive Communities and all their members, including Justin Lo (left). Justin is Associate General Counsel, Financial Services for the Virginia State Corporation Commission and a restaurant critic for the Richmond Times-Dispatch. Justin has helped voice inclusion and diverse cultural references in food criticism. In addition he has shred his experiences with discrimination in the current climate.
I can go on and list all of the resident Asian and Pacific Islanders who contribute to RVA (there’s a ton), but I’d rather focus on who I know and have known throughout the years who have enriched Richmond life for me and others through friendship, connection and inspiration. I’m proud to call them “my people”.
Photo by: Devin Bousquet
Anthony Meñez, my lifelong comrade who is a talented graphic/web designer, illustrator, cartoonist, and sketcher and hosts RVA’s annual Zombie Walk contributing funds to the American Cancer Society. Anthony is incredibly dedicated to his crafts and is a member of the 7 Hills Scooter Club here in Richmond. He also sings a mean Depeche Mode.
Sunny at Raindance Film Festival
Sunny Zhao, a true storyteller and visionary. He is an ward-winning film director and musician. His film company Dreams Factory has done several advertising and branding campaigns world wide. His feature debut film, Gift (2018), received accolades and was 2018 and 2019 Official Selection for Richmond’s International Film Festival. He and I share a love of cars and beauty of imagery.
Photo: MARK GORMUS/TIMES-DISPATCH
Sae and Stephanie Ahn, my trustworthy dry cleaners. Since 2006, this brother/sister duo has been in the business of cleaning, mending, and storing their customer’s clothing. What makes them so great? They have a hydrocarbon solvent-based dry-cleaning machine which makes them an Organic dry cleaning business, making it better for the environment and their employees. Mmmm so fresh and so clean!
Faisal Qureshi, another friend from my high school days. He is partner at Chaplin & Qureshi whom I recommend frequently for my real estate transactions. In addition, Faisal also practices in the areas of civil litigation, and commercial litigation.
Dr. Thanh (Tanya) Giang Sargent, my fellow Freeman High School classmate who is not only super smart (hello PHD in Molecular Biology), but is a Research Professional and Educator, teaching in Henrico County Public Schools. She also can rock a shaved head like no other and makes awesome videos for her students.
Satori Poch, Licensed Acupuncturist, Herbalist, Dipl. O.M whose practice, Comfort Acupuncture introduced me to the healing effects of acupuncture and Chinese medicine which has significantly helped me with anxiety and hormonal issues.
Photo by: Peter McElhinney
The Staff at Fusion Nail, these people are salt of the Earth and do an amazing job at manicuring the nails of Richmond. I cannot say enough great things about them and what they do.
Ana Douangdara McCubbin, one of the most gorgeous people I’ve known for 25+ years. Ana is owner and creator of Eleven 25 Studio. If you need customized art, hand lettering and this and that for personal, business, weddings, showers, home, etc, she’s your girl. Ana has a fantastic eye and creates sweet artistic pieces.
Rachel Leyco, Richmond musician and owner/event designer of EQ Events. Rachel has graced the stages of RVA for over a decade and recently released her new album last year. She’s just truly a talented person with a great soul and a love for craft beer!
Prabir Mehta, you’re very Richmond if you know who this individual is. Musician and non-profit warrior, Prabir is one of the most intelligent and talented people I know and has contributed much to Richmond society including these notable institutions, Gallery5, The Science Museum of Virginia, Science Matters, Gather, WCVE/PBS, Classical Revolution RVA, The Omaha Conservatory for Music, The Enrichmond Foundation, and many others.
Time Will Tell
“Closing walls and ticking clocks, Gonna come back and take you home…” Clocks have adorned homes for ages and the sound of ticking meditates the home…
It was tall, dark and handsome. The solid oak had intricate designs lacing its body as though it told the story of its roots, and whispered the name of whatever forest embraced it once before. The ticks were distinct and gave me solitude in the large house I visited throughout my youth, but it was the pendulum which kept my gaze as I awaited the deep bellow of it’s chime.
I’ve always had an affinity for clocks and watches. The artistry which goes into the wood carvings or the details of a clock face fascinate me, but for me these ticking relics of old bring me the lull to the deepest of sleeps. There is something about a home that is completely silent except for the ticking of a clock. Time is but both a slave and a luxury. I yearn daily to have more of it but only to do the things in which I enjoy, like being lulled to sleep. Old World design has been showcasing its antiquities in home trends as of late and I could not dismiss its allure without mentioning clocks.
Before clocks were common, the words “clockwise” and “counterclockwise” used to be known as “sunwise” and “widdershins,” respectively. The contraction “o’clock,” on the other hand, comes from the 15th-century phrase “stroke of the clock” which refers to the medieval mechanical clocks. - Home Stratosphere
Grandfather Clocks
Named after Henry Clay Work’s diddy “My Grandfather’s Clock” in 1876, the Grandfather clock demands respect and is a stately piece in any home. I like seeing these statuesque time keepers adorning hallways and corners. I have found estate sales are a great way to obtain these and am a fan of the modern versions as well. Don’t want such a ticking tower taking over (say that 10 times real fast), you can always choose the Grandmother. Shorter and often times slimmer, these don’t take up as much room, but can be just as beautiful. It’s the chimes for me!
The Wall Clock
It was the highlight of my day to see the hand reach 3:45pm in high school. There’s something nostalgic about the round school clock in all it’s aesthetic minimalism, yet the significant punctuations they instilled. Nothing fancy, but fit nicely in home offices and kitchens. In addition, it is a great clock to teach time on, wait…they still teach kids what the “little hand” and the “big hand” do right? I however, love wall clocks in all their myriads of designs. From vinyl records to carved wood to molded metals, the more unique the better.
The Mantle Clock
These also remind me of a time of yore. I don’t love these as much. they remind me of being serious and lawyerly. I do prefer the more contemporary and baroque styled ones to put on a mantel or side table.
The Cuckoo Clock
I love good engineering and I love a good cuckoo clock. Our friends in Germany are well known for both of these talents, ask any avid car fan. These days it’s a novelty to have such a timepiece in a home, but these intricately designed clocks hailing from the Black Forest region of Germany, now has contemporary counterparts that fit nicely within modern decor. I love finding ones that have features like running water or dancing figures.
The Old School Twin Bell Clock
These are the best clocks to have on your nightstand. They tick real good and the alarm of the twin bells will make it hard to hit snooze. In my opinion, they are the VW Bugs of clocks.
No matter what your clock style, there is no denying the sound of time and what it can add to a home. It’s a comforting and peaceful antiquity from simpler times where we weren’t always powered by the dings and swooshes of alerts and messages our phones dole out daily.
For more ideas on how to fit clocks into your decor, visit my Pinterest Page:
It's Picnic Time!
Celebrate National Picnic Day with these spread worthy spots!
On the 23rd of this month, we will celebrate National Picnic Day! The pandemic has got more and more of us eating al fresco and we are fortunate to have so many beautiful places to lay out our spreads. With the weather reaching optimal temperatures, finding choice spots are in demand as well as finding restaurants specializing in perfect outdoor eats. Whether romantic, luxe, or family fun, RVA knows how to provide a basket worthy backdrop. I’ve collected a few to help you out on your adventure!
Choice Picnic Spots
We have many parks littered about RVA, but I find these to be the most pleasant for your picnicking fun.
Maymont: Never disappoints with its vast areas for laying about amongst the trees and animals.
Forest Hill Park: It’s rolling hills and the James make a perfectly serene site.
The Church Hill Lookout: intimate and view worthy, you may want to find the perfect time to bring your honey
Libby Hill Park: City and River views worth taking in blanket-side
Three Lakes Park: Walk around the lakes, visit the Nature center and grub out with the kids
Crump Park and Meadow Farm: Nice spots at the pond or enjoy the historical working farm grounds
Hollywood Cemetery: Eating with the dead isn’t so morbid, enjoy gorgeous views of the James at peace
University of Richmond: The campus is perfect for picnic by the pond and even a nice stroll afterwards
Picnic specials and delicious sandwiches and sides
Fill your basket at Sally Bell’s, an old time favorite!
Picnic specials and eats like your grandma used to!
Stella’s Grocery has every delectable to make your basket worth sharing!
A unique 2-wheeled experience!
Looking for an impressive spread, Picnic RVA has you covered.
How Do I Compete?
It’s a crazy market for sure, so what are some ways to help you in a multiple offer situation..
Last year, we had over 100 new agents join Hometown. Last year I had quite a lot of activity, even during the pandemic. This year is proving a little wonky. The pandemic has brought out people wanting to be Agents because, let’s face it, a lot of us were reevaluating our career choices. Fair enough. Now, that being said, we are also dealing with a very HOT Seller’s Market. People keep asking me, “How’s the market?” All I can do is reply shaking my head in wonder and immediately jumping to, “Why? You want to sell?!” as I paw a pant leg and wag my tail excitedly.
I’ve gone into Real Estate with the sole intention of getting people what they want and doing it the right way. Yes, I also got into it because of the expedited paycheck, but that aside, I really do work hard to give the best service I can to my clients. What I’m not going to do is lie to my clients, nor will I steer them in a way I feel is not going to benefit them, even if they don’t want to hear it. We have a super competitive market right now and I’m seeing two things: 1. First Time Homebuyers crying on my shoulder at how many lost bids they’ve received and 2. Buyers throwing their hands in the air saying, “I’m done, I don’t want to buy a house like this.” If you’ve looked on your Next Door and neighborhood Facebook pages, you’ll notice the minute someone uses the words, “house” , “buy”, or “sell” in their posts, every Realtor® on the planet is answering. We are vultures to put it simply and we are competing for not only buyers, but we are looking for more inventory.
I lost three bids in one weekend and lost my buyers along with it. It’s difficult because, for one, I’m not going to tell people they shouldn’t get an inspection. I’m also not going to advise them to bid over listing if it’s not worth it. What’s going to happen in 3-5 years when you want to sell? Are you going to make anything off what you paid during this time. We are seeing the craziest things during this market from waived appraisals to up to $100K over asking. So what do you do to compete? Here are some tips:
CASH IS KING. If you’ve got cash to buy a home, I suggest you use it. Nearly every time it wins out on bids. Why’s it best? It eliminates lender fees and closing costs, it is also better for the seller because a buyer can’t back out due to financial hiccups.
GET PRE-APPROVED. Before I work with buyers I usually like them to get pre-approved before seeing homes. This gets the buyer prepared to make an offer easily. If you and I are going to see houses, I’ve already set you up and am ready to write contracts immediately if you give the word “GO!” Also, make sure you are choosing a good lender as well because even though you’re a first time homebuyer, you might qualify for a heartier loan.
BRING YOUR BIGGEST AND BEST OFFER. Don’t under bid. Always go higher. If you can stick an escalation clause in there, have your agent do so. Bring a bigger EMD, if $1000 is the deposit amount, double it, you have to pay it anyway at closing and it’ll help your bid. Don’t make special requests and if it’s a newer property or a condo, you can feel more comfortable about waiving inspections. Your agent should be able to advise you on amounts and negotiate a good deal.
TIME IS OF THE ESSENCE. This is key when entering into this market. If you see something and want it, jump on it immediately. Be prepared to write a letter of interest along with your proof of funds, and a solid offer. I’ve seen a house go on and within 24 hours there’s been 36 offers. You want to be the first and foremost! I’ve also seen buyers sit too long and they lose out. So, be prepared to write an offer quickly.
THE AGENT. Make sure you pick an agent with good negotiating skills. Make sure they are prepared and also communicative. Also pick someone who is going to be honest about pricing. Some agents just want the higher commission while others want to negotiate the best deal that in the long run won’t leave you stuck with an overpriced home.
THE BIGGEST DOESN’T ISN’T NECESSARILY THE BRIGHTEST. Sometimes it isn’t the biggest bid that wins, sometimes it’s something as easy as a shorter timeline to closing or agreeing to waive a certain amount in inspection items.
GET OVER IT QUCKLY. Yes, I know it had everything you wanted, but you lost. You lost to a cash offer with waived inspection that was 50K over asking. You couldn’t do that. It wasn’t in your power and so you have to accept the loss and move on. Trust me, it sucks for me just as bad as you because I also feel discouraged. You can only do what you can do financially and I can only give what I can based on my expertise and negotiation skills. Don’t worry, there’s another home for you and we’ll get it!
RISKY BUSINESS. Just remember if you are waiving inspections and appraisals, you may win the bid but in the long run be stuck with costlier problems.
I’m always going to do what you ask me to do, but part of my job is protecting you. I don’t want you to lose out on your dream house and I surely don’t want to lose out on a nice commission, but I also want what’s best for you and sometimes that means NOT taking a riskier route when it comes to your funds vs your desires. This isn’t going to last forever and I don’t have a crystal ball unfortunately, but I want you to go into the market with confidence and knowledge. So, you ready?
So, You're Getting a Divorce...
It’s an ugly word, but it doesn’t have to be an ugly process…
Yeah, it’s not words we want to speak of, unless you’re super happy about going your separate ways. Covid has definitely put a magnifying glass on many marriages and the result has been revealing. Nobody likes divorce. It’s hard and it’s emotionally draining, no matter if it’s amicable or a knock down dragged out fight. One thing is for sure the last thing you want to think about in all of it is selling your home and you might not have to, but you may definitely want to.
Divorce is quite a common motivation for a listing, and because it is so common, Agents see a lot of the same things. For example, more than likely one person is chomping at the bit to sell and the other is less motivated. Why even get rid of the property? Simply put, a lot of couples want a fresh start or don’t want to be reminded of the life they built there. In the end, you’ll both have to work together to see it through. The ultimate goal is for you both to close one chapter so you can start another.
“Your dreams don’t have an expiration date.”
An Agent. Picking the right agent to sell your home during this time can be an obstacle. You might not want to use Sally Doolittle who helped you both buy the current residence. You may want to use someone totally neutral and unknown to make things fair and straightforward. You might want to use one agent to sell and another to buy. Whoever you both decide on, make sure they are clear on the climate they are walking into. That agent should also be empathetic and patient, sometimes they will need to have two separate meetings. They should be communicative and also thick skinned to deal with runaway emotions not intentionally sent in their direction. If they are a good agent, they will be intuitive, willing to listen, and help mediate.
“You cannot start the next chapter of your life if you keep rereading the last one.”
Listing Prep. This is the hard part. Nobody wants to do it—the cleaning, the packing, the purging, the rummaging through lost memories. It’s hard, especially if you’ve been there for a significant amount of time. Allow yourself to work through the process. Make sure to give yourself some time to take a break and a breath when you need to. Chances are, one of you has already moved out, which will make things slightly easier, but if not, maybe delegate some tasks so you aren’t in each others faces if it’s awkward or hostile. Also, your agent should be able to help you schedule things like cleanings, landscaping, and repairs.
Time. The sooner the better right? Not always. In this market it wouldn’t be too difficult to get a sooner closing date. Most closings happen in 45 days but these days it can be sooner depending on your loan process. You might have a situation where you need to work on selling one property to be able to buy/move into another. There are also the pros and cons of selling before and after you’re divorced that could potentially delay the divorce itself. You’ll have to decide on what’s going to suit your situation, and also be the most cost effective, efficient, and amiable.
Children. This is also something to consider when you decide to sell your home during a divorce. Sometimes it’s less painful to sell a home to maintain normalcy for the kids, but other times it’s better to have everyone just start anew. Also, moving with kids (depending on age) can be tumultuous when deciding on school district changes and maybe needing assistance if it’s a sole move, so you can have time to go through things without any distractions.
In the End comes a New Beginning. Take it from someone who is a divorcée, it is hard no matter what and adding the loss of a home is another piece that’ll rip you apart sometimes. You may not want to buy a new home, you may want to get yourself that new single person rental in the city you’ve been dreaming about or maybe you want to test out some new neighborhoods you’ve been curious about until you feel you can commit again. Getting the biggest buyout would be an ideal way for you to get the home you’ve always wanted, shoe closets and all! You now have some options and that’s the positive part —the blank canvas.
“Divorce is a declaration of independence with only two signers.”
No matter what the end entails, including collecting the half proceeds from the sale of your “marital home”, you get to start over. You get to have the basement bar you’ve always wanted, or the art studio free of storage items you’ve dreamed about. You get your own space with new paint, new art, new furniture and all while blasting that record they hated you listening to for the past 15 years. Sure, all wounds take time to heal, but it doesn’t have to be all painful. The most important thing to remember is to be communicative, be willing to work together one last time, and keep the end goal in mind —a new beginning.
La Flora Decora
I love getting flowers, but I love having them add to my home decor…
One of the things I miss about New York besides the unlimited fashion catwalk or the music venues or the drive by cocktails, it’s actually the flowers. I used to love walking briskly down the sidewalks and seeing men with bouquets of flowers running to catch the train, or watching women carry their groceries with a simple bouquet of lilies peeking out their bags. There’s something about fresh flowers adorning your dining table or a little assortment on an end table that just brings a little something. As Spring has sprung, this is a great time to enjoy some flower power inspirations, whether freshly cut or fauxtastic.
My only problem with fresh flowers is they die. Some are great dried, but others leave a heap of dead petals behind. Faux flowers used to put me off, they appeared chintzy and dull. Those days are gone. Now you have great choices for faux florals that you can also paint vibrant or muted colors depending on your style or mood of rooms. I collected a few bouquet ideas for you to celebrate the renewal of Spring and to give your home a fresh, floral makeover.
Wreaths
Wreaths are always a good idea to perk up any front door, choose from large Peonies to delicate Rhododendrons. I’m thinking about trying to make one of these, but I’m not the crafty type and if you’re anything like me, you’ll just give Cari a call, and have her make one for you.
Framed
This is an easy way to show off your artsy skill. An age old process of pressing flowers and turning them into framed art creates a whimsical, vibrant, or bohemian accent. I love seeing these framed bouquets as well, looks expensive but really easy to DIY your own.
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I think it’s cool when you find flowers in unexpected containers. A classy vase is always nice depending on the bouquet, but I love seeing flowers hanging on the wall in test tubes, or coming out of a skull head. I also like when flowers are mixed with things like fruit or vegetables. I love putting my flowers in unique vintage bottles and I prefer small little ones around the house. Depending on your choice of flowers will most likely determine the type of display you’ll want and it can be as simple or as robust as you’d like.
Flower Power
Your display will only be as powerful as the flowers you choose, whether it’s faux or real. My favorite types to use are peonies, lavender, dahlias, and hydrangeas. Even roses are good for painting interesting colors. Tulips in the springtime are always lovely because they bring so much color, they look great in kitchens. Try putting some little arrangements in the bathroom or on your nightstand. You’d be surprised at how much it’ll add to your decor and you can do it all year round!
Arrangements
If you are anything like me and your crafty gene was lost in your creation, don’t worry, we have plenty of local floral experts who can arrange some mighty fine displays for your home or events. Whether real, silk, or paper, these local petalmeisters have a real knack for arranging florals, some even have workshops and subscription services.
Local Flower Farms
Don’t forget how many wonderful farms are in and around RVA to buy your fresh flowers. Some even carry dried flowers for your displays.
For more floral DIY projects.
Time to Shine
With just an inkling of rising temperatures, it’s the time when we emerge from our cocoons and start giving the outside of our homes the attention it deserves…
I do believe we will be spending another Spring / Summer in limited social capacity. Yes, I too am over it. While some of you will take the chance to leap onto greener pastures through travel or masked frolicking, others will now start to plan their warmer weathered activities.
As I stare at the dead plants upon which I adorn my stoop and porch with, I can fairly say my gardening skills are less than stellar. Cutting grass for me is quite enjoyable as I see it taking the place of my wasted gym membership (which I’m still paying for by the way). We broke down and forked out a stimulus check to get a pool worth wading in while basking in the Summer heat. It got a little messy in our backyard to say the least. This year, I want to create an inviting, pest free space. A space that doesn’t denote the hint of unemployed and overfilled recycling bins, one that says, “Hello, welcome to our Summer bubble, won’t you come in and enjoy this lavender flavored iced tea.”
All that being romanticized, we have a large yard. Last year I broke down and got my own landscaper who mulches, weeds, and takes care of anything that will put us in the “trashy” category. I also recalled last year’s heavily booked schedules for landscapers, painters, gutter cleaners, powerwashers and roofers. So here’s your little reminder for all those wanting that luxurious looking curb appeal to get on the books now! Here are a few I’ve used who provide excellent service. I recommend one that provides a membership-like schedule.
Landscapers
Arborists
PowerWashers
Gutters
Handy Repairs
In addition to yard primping, Spring cleaning should be on the list as well. Think about how long you’ve been inside, living, working, playing in your home. Also, a great Mother’s Day gift *wink *wink. A good deep clean will refresh your home for the new season and what better way to eliminate any wandering virus potentials. These cleaners are Covid safe and will give your home that sun shiny clean it’s been waiting for!
In addition to yard primping, Spring cleaning should be on the list as well. Think about how long you’ve been inside, living, working, playing in your home. Also, a great Mother’s Day gift *wink *wink. A good deep clean will refresh your home for the new season and what better way to eliminate any wandering virus potentials. These cleaners are Covid safe and will give your home that sun shiny clean it’s been waiting for!
My Best Cleaners
Some other improvements/refreshes to make during this time:
Resealing/Painting of Decks
Painting the Front Door a New Color
Updating your Roof if Needed
Ordering Maintenance for Your HVAC Units
Buy your Above Ground Pool NOW
Get New Cushions for Your Outdoor Furniture
Paint your Fences
Call Me to Do a Walkthrough for Listing Your Home!
Let the beautification begin! For any all recommendations visit:
The Colors of My Life
Colors are so powerful when it comes to setting a mood, selling or buying a house, or capturing a feeling…
All My Colors (in order): My house exterior, My house interior, the velvet blue furniture I’m dreaming of, the black that comes with the Aston Martin, and Valentino red I love to don as frequently as possible.
You know when you’re dreaming and something catches your eye and it leaves you with such a desire that you want it to become part of you? That’s how I feel about color. I’m sure all you design freaks are in the know that Pantone chose not one, but two colors of the year for 2021. I guess since 2020 was such a dull grey that had to spice things up. Funny enough they chose Illuminating Yellow and Ultimate Gray, how contrary and a good depiction of the past and future.
“Sherwin-Williams sets revenue records as DIY paint sales jump during pandemic.”
I’ve always found yellow to be an abhorrent color. I felt the only places it looked good on were lemons, bananas and the sun, but I’ve started to warm up a little to certain shades. Anyone who is familiar with my brand, knows I am a color loyalist — red and black will most likely be my go-to when choosing representation and clothing. My mother hated my goth phase in high school, “You know in Panama prostitutes wear black!” It gave me great satisfaction putting a sole red bandana in my hair to satisfy her discontent. I did however go through a strong purple phase, especially with hair colors (mom loved that). Each time I wear red I am complimented highly. It suits my passions, my culture, and my eye. Black, well, black says bold, it makes a statement that is serious, yet chic and I like that. I think after my obsession of wanting to fit in, becoming a slave to the United Colors of Benetton, it only seemed logical that my rebellious side take over, leaving black as my only option to convey how I was feeling (angsty) and besides, what color displayed The Cure and Depeche Mode better?
The memory of color is etched in my brain. I can remember the shade of green our 1970’s leather living room couch wore and I remember the electric blue hot pants my neighbor wore on her first day of high school. I recall only choosing the Midnight Blue crayon to shade my Fashion Plates’ designs until it diminished, unusable, and wished they had more than one in there. I still love that color to this day. I know I cringe at the sight of pastels, and coral seems to incite a certain gag reflex in me. I met a girl once who had Synesthesia and I was so fascinated that every time she would see or think of numbers it was a different color. I giggled as I asked her what painting by numbers was like. When I used to see gold in homes, it used to make me think of chintzy, gaudy things, now it has become a marketable trend. I think it’s safe to say that colors can remark an era of time, think turquoise and yellow kitchens of the 1950s, but who knew that a shade of pink could define an entire generation?
Color invokes emotion, memory and sets a mood. It is a factor in why some houses sell and others don’t. If I do a walkthrough for an upcoming listing and the walls are painted with an unattractive color, I tell them they need to paint. I’ve had clients pass on a bid because they didn’t like the color of the house, even though they could very well paint it the color of their dreams. I showed a house once that had a beautiful dining area with Emerald green accented walls accompanied with vintage wallpapering. I had to remind my clients to see the rest of the house before putting an offer, they loved that room so much.
We, as Agents, tend to steer listers towards neutrals, but I don’t hesitate to add color as a future option for my purchasers. It helps them set an individual tone to their home and envision what it could be. We are currently in a moody, vivid trend with home paint colors, which I am loving. I like to see a bathroom that’s painted black with brass fixtures, or a dining room that has a darker shade of blue on it’s walls. I think it pops and creates a unique atmosphere. When I lived in New York, I painted the living room this burnt sienna color and had warm hues and textures adorning it, think Morocco. We never had a guest who stayed awake in that room, there was always at least one person who fell asleep peacefully in a room full of people. I was proud to create that reaction because it meant my home was that comfortable.
Photo by: Homes & Gardens
Trends or no trends, color is an important aspect to home. It helps us express who we are and how we want others to feel. It’s powerful in it’s aesthetic and what it does to your psyche. I view color the way I view art, I feel it. If I walk into a room and I see Drunk Tank Pink, I’m going to instantly hurl. As you can deduce, pink is not my favorite color. Technology has made it so easy to create colors that are one of a kind or mock that of a bird or a classic car you love. So much inspiration, so little space! So, as the weather starts to warm up and you’re making your list of home improvements this Spring, think about how you want your house to look, inside and out. If you are thinking about selling this year, it’s a perfect time for you to be picking out your curb appealing shades. In the meantime, enjoy the blue skies, golden sun, and budding greens we are currently having, we’re due for a more colorful kind of year, no?
If you are thinking about selling your home and need some help guiding you through the process, please feel free to contact me. I’m more than happy to help you get the best value for your property and as quickly as possible.
The Home Warranty
A home warranty? What is it and do I want that?
When I put a bid in for my clients, I usually encourage them to ask for a Home Warranty paid by the seller. What is this and why do you want it? A home warranty is basically a service contract designed to repair or replace the major systems and appliances in a home as they are used over time. It guarantees a home buyer that if something breaks due to normal wear and tear, the warranty company will provide coverage to repair or replace it.
I cannot tell you how many times a new homeowner moves in and two days later the HVAC stopped working. The warranty usually covers parts and labor and major appliances like refrigerators, dishwashers, washer/dryers, and even microwaves. It covers built-in systems, such as HVAC and ductwork, garbage disposals and ceiling fans. The warranty is for usually a year, but you can extend it. Plans usually run $400-600 annually and you have the choice of adding a premium package to the mix if you’d like. This can cover such costs as disposal of equipment, code upgrades and permits which are sometimes not covered with most plans.
It’s just some added protection as you start your new chapter and I recommend getting it highly when writing up the contract. It’s just some added assurance that if and when things start to fall apart, you are covered. I have highly recommended warranty companies I use and getting a quote is so very easy. Feel free to peruse their sites to get a better understanding of what can be covered in your home warranty. Happy House Hunting!
Away with Romance
Valentine’s Day is fast approaching so get to planning and fall in love, rekindle, romance, and let Virginia take you in its arms!
I think it is quite safe to say, we are over being at home all the time. I think even introverts would agree on that to some extent. Valentine’s Day is usually littered with fancy dinner dates and broken hearts club outings, but this year is obviously lending itself to more creative adventures. For all of you looking to get out of town on a romantic rendezvous or something different, here are some suggestions.
Primland Luxury Mountain Resort
Meadows of Dan, VA
If you’ve got the money to spend time with your honey, this is well worth it. Secluded with the Blue Ridge as your backdrop, this getaway is privately delicious. You can rent a treehouse, luxury cabin, or cottage. There’s plenty to do here as well. From horseback riding to an ATV adventure you and your partner will relive those honeymoon days.
Cabin in Fancy Gap, VA atop the Blue Ridge Mountains
Mountains, Lakes, Rivers, and Beaches Oh My!
One thing I’ve learned during Covid is that exploring Virginia has been the highlight of it all and cabin lodging is not only romantic, but also serene, more importantly it doesn’t have to be beaucoup expensive. Why not stay in someone else’s home for a change. There are so many beautiful lake houses and rustic cabins surrounded by nature and beautiful scenery, how could one not find the romance in that?! Check out Holiday Homes for availability.
Book a Personal Chef
Want a five course meal and restaurant feel? Book a personal chef for the occasion and you never have to worry about listening to Karen complain about her steak not being well done.
Book a Room at The Jefferson Hotel
Go crazy and stay in RVA at The Jefferson. Premier packages are available for you and your honey to lounge, dine, and bed in luxury.
Kick it at Dover Hall
This place is amazing and for a unique stay with the utmost in beautiful lodging and grounds book a room at Dover Hall and partake in their V-Day dining experience.
Cheap Date RVA
RVA is the best wingman! If. you are looking to treat your sweet, but need not to spend that entire stimulus check, start the day off with grabbing some local coffee and pastries, head to Tiffany & Co (yes, a la Holly and Paul) cue Moon River on the phone. After, head over to Forest Hill Park or Hollywood Cemetery for a nice stroll. If it’s too wintry outside, get over to the VMFA and peruse the art while playing hide and seek with your person. Dine for brunch at Amuse and enjoy the view and the mimosas! Time for a nap? Yes, head over to your RVA AirBNB equipped with indoor fireplace to light the mood up to romantic, play that game of chess or Scrabble you never have time for and don’t forget to order the chocolates from Chocolate by Kelly! Have dinner delivered or picked up and dine by candlelight. DO NOT use your phones during your mini dates unless you are taking photos! On Monday you’ll feel relaxed, loved, and cared for by your city.
Virginia is for Courting
Our rocky past has grown into a great love story…
Photo by: Stephen Poore
Dear VA,
I’ve been reminiscing about how we came to be since it is a time of devoted reflection. Do you remember when I met you in 1986. We didn’t hit it off right away. You tempted me with beautiful scenery and a good school, but you also had these weird phrases and your cooking was terrible! I was forced to be with you and so we did not begin in the best of times.
I finally got rid of you after so many on and off again romances. In 2005, I decided our toxic relationship would offer me nothing but a warm barstool and another dead end job, so I ended it and left you for good (or so I thought). For five years I put you behind me, but we still had a connection that my love affair with New York could not fulfill. The fates had other plans for us and as New York left me cold and abandoned, I sought refuge in your arms.
It took me about a year to feel comfortable within you, but as I acclimated with old friends and familiar surroundings, it was your new personality that began to woo me. You had new people in your life from bigger cities like NYC, Dallas, and Los Angeles. You were wearing new clothes shedding the Commonwealth khakis of old. You showed me what it was to discover new territory with parks and landmarks I hadn’t visited before. And then, you gave me great joy satiating my appetite with culinary delights and beer, lots and lots of beer. You started building boutique hotels and gave my friends success in new buildings and businesses. You brought song back into my life with new local musicians and venues and gave me new haunts to meet new people and visit old ones. All the things I hated about you before, you replaced with charm, nostalgia, and hope, but most of all you gave me a new love.
Our union has grown a lot since reluctantly returning to your border 10 years ago, and I am now quite proudly crossing your bridges, strolling your landscape, and seeing you for the first time. It has given me much joy residing in your beautiful city of RVA and providing diverse neighborhoods, thriving communities, and cool things to do. I think you and I have a great future ahead of us…now if you could only stop with the roundabouts, segregated classes, and people obsessed with the Confederacy, you and I can finally ride off into the sunset.
xoxo,
Lady J
Looking for Love in All the Right Places
Are you ready to fall in love?
She and I met when I was about 5 or 6 years old. She had an iron wrought gate surrounding her as though she wore a choker from the 1800s. Her color was pale blue and her two tiered porches wrapped around her waist as though she donned a lace trimmed ball gown. Her eyes were dark, but her lids came in a myriad of brocade colors and her steeples pointed to the heavens with such grace. She was a true beauty, and my dream for a long time.
I used to pass this house on my way home from school in my small hometown of Crowley, LA. I loved that majestic home, untouchable and hiding so many stories within its walls. It was the first home I ever can remember dying to live in. Fast forward 30 something years, and I’ve had a few crushes here in RVA, but none have drawn me in the way that gorgeous Victorian of my childhood did.
Falling in love with a home requires a true connection. When you are looking for the perfect match, there are some things to consider…
Attraction. What’s she wearing? Is it a ball grown or is it a little black dress? Does it wink at you when you drive by or does it tighten up when you approach it’s gates? We all have some sort of architecture we love whether it’s the warm coziness of a Bellevue bungalow or the stately Colonials adorning the near West End or the grandeur of Monument Avenue’s Classical Revivals. No matter what you love on the outside, that love at first site thing is real when it comes to house hunting. Her outsides are the first thing you see. You may be attracted to her country porch, her picturesque face, or you may be tempted with her manicured lawns and meticulous landscaping.
It’s What’s Inside that Counts. I’ve seen several unsuspecting homes. They don’t initially catch my eye as I’m driving up, but then I go inside and that’s where she gets me. Some people are attracted to flooring, some to unique details, and others to particular rooms. For me, I’m drawn to unique quarters like libraries and secret lounges. Yes, I know this is a higher expectation, but if I have to settle, I’ll settle for falling in love with a kitchen and/or bathroom. She could be a high class gal adorned with granite countertops and the most up to date appliances or she could have original floors and an antique vanity. I think a lot of people are looking for a home that meets a less cookie cutter image, something that feels more personal. You want the love of your life to stand out from the rest, no? Aesthetics aside, there’s something more important than looks…
That Warm and Fuzzy Feeling. It all comes down to how she makes you feel. When you open her door can you see a future? Do you feel warm or do you feel as though she might spit you out when you try to change her? I’ve had clients walk in and immediately walk right out because of an initial vibe. No matter how pretty she is, if she doesn’t give you the warm and fuzzies, it’s not for you. I don’t ever want to force my clients into falling in love with something they don’t want to marry. I encourage people to take in a home, walk around it, glide your hands down her banisters, lay in her tubs, lean on her counters, check out her surroundings, and visit her at night. Then ask yourself, Is she loving you back?
Not every home is going to be The One. You could find one that is Fun for Now, but not marriage material. The most important thing is not to be rash, but to take some time and get to know her, find out all you can about her, learn about her history and how she’s grown, and make sure she doesn’t have any baggage that’s going to come up later.
I pine for the day I can walk into a home and say, “This is my forever!”. Until then I’m still dating around, trying to find out which one is worth my investment. What about you? Have you fallen in love yet? Are you ready to make a commitment? I’d love to hear more Love Stories, feel free to leave a comment.
For the Love of Home Questionnaire
What was the first home you fell in love with and why?
See Above and also because I really love historic homes.
What was the first home you cohabited in? You know, your first love nest?
We’d been dating for well over 3 years and although he was at my house pretty much every day, we didn’t officially move in together until 2002. 3 S Vine. A small one bedroom apartment that I fell in love with because it was updated and the location was stellar. We ate at The Lighthouse a whole lot! The thing I loved about it the most was that we lived there alone — no roommates!What was the home that got away?
I have house regret. There was this beautiful house in the near West End that my friend lived in. When she moved away they put it on the market and I wished I could have bought that lovely house on Kensington.What is the decor you are crushing on currently?
I’m really digging vintage style wallpaper. I think seeing shows and film influence my style choices. Ever since I watched Sharp Objects, I want all of that! I am also digging the Art Deco style that has made a comeback. The colors in particular, I just love moody, lush colors.What is your home breakup story? The home you miss the most or the home that brought you nothing but heartache?
It’s not necessarily a “home” in terms of the construct you live in, but the home I miss the most is New York, funny, it the home which has brought me the most heartache as well. I do miss it’s vibe though!What is your favorite place you LOVE to be in at your house and why?
Our bedroom. I love how dark it is and yet how bright I can make it. I also love our front porch which makes for a great way to get to know your neighbors.Was or is there a neighborhood you LOVE the most?
Yes, this one. Ginter Park and Brookland Park has been my favorite place to live in RVA. I love it so much! Its walkability, its business owners, its friendly neighbors and the homes are incredible and historic.What is your favorite piece of furniture?
Right now it’s the album holder which was custom built by Tom Brickman. In the future I hope it is velvet chaise I hope to attain.
My Cousin Vintage
Vintage is the new trend for 2021 and I couldn’t love it more! From vintage cameras to art deco mirrors to jade glass vases, giving your home a new luck can cure any lock down.
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WHAT YOU SAID
• Vintage Fabrics for pillows, curtains, etc.
• Taxidermy
• Fenton Hobnail Glass
• Bar Carts
• Hat Boxes
• Pie Safe
• Black & White Photos
• Bar Carts
• Postcards
• Vintage Ads/Magazine Cover Art
• Old Radios, Cameras, Typewriters, Gramophones
• Crochet
I like the sleekness of modern things. The design itself is quite attractive, but to me it lacks depth. It’s like your cousin who wears a Japanese designer whose cuts are as sharp as a chef’s knife, while you prefer the texture, richness and tradition of Chanel. Don’t get me wrong, I love modern design, but preferably not in my home. I’m more of a Refined Industrial gal, I love textures and richness in a room, but I also love traditional pieces that have a history. I’ve always had a love of vintage, even as a child I recall an affinity for homes that had a timeless appeal. Vintage is my go to when I want to start a conversation. The nice thing about vintage decor is that it can incorporate different eras. Some people will continue to love their mid-century credenzas while others will venture to find a Victorian style vanity. I sometimes think I was born in the wrong era.
It is predicted that 2021 will highlight vintage home decor and I couldn’t be more thrilled. Oh to find an oil rain lamp or 1950’s bar cart. We are seeing a revival of art deco styles with peacock plumage and gold trimmings, but because Covid has changed our living spaces, you’re going to find more neutral and earth tones as well as deep moody hues. You can compliment those styles with some really nifty finds around town. I was actually shocked at how many of these local shops there were to accommodate such tastes. What a nice discovery!
So, while we are still cozied up at home, perhaps 2021 will get you motivated to restyle your living and working spaces. A good refresh will change the entire mood of your abode which will lead to inspiration, freshness, and motivation. Items like old typewriters, vintage farm tools, art deco style mirrors, or antique trunks bring a cool nostalgia to any room.
If you are looking for more architectural pieces to add to your home, look no further than Caravati's Inc or Governor's Architectural Antiques. You’ll find unique, historic and detailed fixins from clawfoot tubs to newel posts to ironworks. I have found some beautiful ornate woodwork at these places, including beautiful mantles to transform any den/living room.
Sometimes you can find these things in thrift stores or estate sales, but here are a few vintage vendors here in Richmond to check out:
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68 Home Studio
BRICK ALLEY CO
MIDCENTRIC
SHEPPARD STREET ANTIQUES
VERVE HOME FURNISHINGS
THROUGH THE GARDEN GATE
Welcome to a New Dawn
Welcome to a New Year with a future on the horizon…
No, this isn’t a Twilight reference, but rather one of hope and embarking on a new beginning. Will you join me?
We are finally at the end of this, excuse my French, #@&%$# of a year. Some people might think, ooo the clock just went past midnight, cue triumphant music. Sorry to say, but we aren’t out of this mess yet. What we are in is a new transition into something different. We have learned new things about how we live and probably who we are. I for one learned many a thing during this time. From what a slob I can be to improving communication to getting pretty creative with my meals. So, if anything, this time has provided growth and growth leads to progress leads to a better way of living, etc etc etc.
So what the hell does this have to do with buying and selling houses you ask? Forecasting a new year is difficult. Forecasting a new year during a pandemic, well it’s cloudy if anything. Home sales for 2020 will top the previous year with an 8.1% increase in median home sales.* It is predicted that the market will continue to be strong in 2021, and inventory will continue to be scarce, just as mortgage rates maintain their historic lows.
It’s a mixed bag of sorts, but one thing is for sure, needing a home is definitely in demand. Demographics are changing as some are extending families and finding new occupational paths, others are wanting different floor plans, and home improvement has seen a significant increase. Contractors can’t build houses fast enough to compensate for the lack of housing, and with increases in costs of production materials and lack of labor, there has been some constraints on new construction. As I said before, I think it’s a perfect time to be putting together that hopescape and making it happen.
To summarize, once the pandemic is over we can breathe again, literally, and open ourselves up to new possibilities. I don’t do resolutions when a new year arrives. It puts too much pressure and high expectations. The older we get, the more change becomes difficult, but what I like to do is take all the assets of the year before and apply them to improving the next year. Here are a few things I do plan on doing during 2021.
More virtual tours. I’m planning on showing you all houses on my own, in different neighborhoods, so you can stay safe. I will be available for physical and private tours adhering to all the precautions, but I thought it might be fun to explore and show you all houses on my own accord. I’ll showcase two or three a week.
Neighborhood Profiles. I’m finally getting this together for the website. Every month I’ll spotlight a different neighborhood in RVA and it will talk about the area from what’s near to architecture to history. I’ll be including photos and videos and interviews of actual neighbors from those areas.
Putting the Sweet in Home. Stay tuned as I reach out to local businesses that incorporate all things home, including decorators, designers, builders, and landscapers.
Lend An Ear Happy Hour: I’m planning on having a bi-weekly Q&A with a lender and myself to answer any questions you might have about buying a home and what lending options you might have.
I think I can handle this task list. I do want to continue to support local businesses and urge you to do so as well. I plan on doing what I can for my communities and neighborhood. It’s a good time to plan out some neighborhood clean ups, offer tutoring services, look after pets, and donate meals to healthcare providers and elderly neighbors. It’s a good time to work on your health regiment (a la Rebel Wilson), take more bubble baths, read more books, watch some documentaries, listen to more podcasts, play with your kids, play with your partners, have a road trip, plan for the future because you may never have this contemplation time again, well let’s hope we don’t have something like this jar our world again. This is temporary folks, the chaos will end and will be replaced by bigger and brighter things. So embrace the new year, burn the last one, and let’s move forward to better ways of living.
Quarantine Chronicles: Dream a Little Dream
When the rental or the home you reside in becomes stale or you’re ready to dream of home ownership, do NOT think it impossible!
I woke up today, staring at the ceiling, looking at the four walls which surround the most sacred of places — my bed. I walk downstairs and drag my slippered feet to the kitchen, opening the cabinet to get my mug for that first morning sip. My counter is cluttered, there is literally some sort of appliance or kitchen utensil covering the length of it. I cringe. Oh yeah, look up at the top of my fridge where I find my step-daughter’s pumpkin from Halloween overfilled with candy she may or may not indulge in. I open the freezer, that is stuffed to the gills with minimal items, my frozen container of pomegranate seeds comes sliding out, only to hit the floor in sudden death. This is where you just sit on the floor depressingly eating the fruity carcass, gently sobbing, “WHYYYYYY?” Why is my fridge not bigger? Why don’t I have enough counterspace to become America’s Next Top Chef? Why must I look at these drab walls? You know, questions to start off your typical Monday morning.
I’ve lived in the house for almost three years. This will be my 34th rental in my 47 years of existence. I’m embarrassed by the fact that I’m a practicing real estate agent, but have never owned my own home. As I peruse Pinterest boards, watch DIY home improvement videos from some guy named Todd and sigh at watching Galey Alix design dream roomscapes on her TikTok. Sigh. It can get depressing, especially right now with our current pandemic crisis. I keep thinking will I ever attain the dream of owning my own home and what is it exactly preventing from doing so?
Truth be told, it’s unfavorable living in someone else’s home, paying someone else’s mortgage and having to live with someone else’s interior. There are times when I want to take out a wall or have an extra room. There are times I want a bigger kitchen or a better landscaped backyard. The dream of home ownership weighs on me heavily. So, I’m doing what a lot of people are doing right now —making a plan.
Photo by Ekaterina Bolovtsova from Pexels
The Timeline
The first thing I’m going to do is figure out a feasible timeline to make my dream happen. For some it’ll be six months and for others it will take a whole year. Think about your credit, your job, your current situation. If you are already in a good place (yeah you, you adult!) then think about when you want to make that move and what is going to required of you. Are you renting? When’s that lease up? Are you owning? What improvements do you have to make to get the most value out of your home to buy a sweet new one?
The Wish List
This is my favorite part. The part where i get to have a list of criteria of all the desired features in a home I want. After living in so many locations from architecture to community, I know the exact things I don’t want in my living space (water pressure is everything!). So when you are making out your list make sure you are covering all details, not just room size and bathroom count. Think about your must haves and hell no’s:
Will I be able to add any structural expansion to this home? If you needed to add an in-law suite or a working garage, do you have the room?
How many ways can I rearrange my furniture? You’d be surprised how many renovated homes have one, maybe two ways to rearrange a room. Rearranging rooms, adding furniture, changing styles are all ways to refresh a home, especially if you are also spending a whole lot of time in it.
Am I walking to Wawa and Kroger or am I enjoying the culinary delights of sitting at an outdoor cafe. Check your neighborhood experience. Some people like the views of stroller lined streets while others prefer the beauty of tree lined ones.
Are you sick of mowing a large lawn? Maybe you want something more low maintenance, like maybe a strip of grass.
No touching! Do you want bedrooms that kiss each other down a hallway or would you rather have them across from each other? Do you want to hide from your children or do you want to hear all that Fortnite chatter? A simple layout plan can change your whole living experience
Do you want that washer and dryer upstairs or downstairs? I personally like to fold and watch my stories at the same time!
Just how close am I to my neighbor? Do I want some distance there? Can you borrow sugar or would you prefer an ATV to get to your neighbor’s house?
Money, Money, Money.
If you are anything like me, money is always the one factor which deters me from my dreams. I find it hard to invest in myself and it hinders a lot of planning. To be perfectly honest, I’ve struggled most of my life financially for many reasons. It took me a really long time to find a career I could actually be successful at. It’s really strange that I can look at my bank account and see savings in there. Maybe you’ve been on that track too. Some of us didn’t have the trajectory of having a 401K and a white picket fence. So, what do you do when you want to buy a house, but don’t have the best finances?
Meet with a Lender or a Financial Planner: This will help you have a plan and one to stick with. They can tell you exactly what you need and how much to put away to get it. Sure, it might take a year, but if you are disciplined and follow the plan, it can happen for you. Usually, it’s as simple as putting away a little stash or paying off a debt.
Research: You’d be surprised how much help you can get when buying a home. There are grant programs and homeownership assistance programs you can qualify for. If you are a healthcare provider, teacher, or “hero” worker, you an also qualify for special loans in addition to first time homebuyer benefits.
Open a House Account: Go to the bank and open a bank account just for housing costs. Start collecting, not just for the house itself, but also for all the things you’ll want for that house, right down to the new dishes. It will give you a goal to focus on and if you just put a little away here and there, you’d be surprised how quickly buying a home can be a possibility. So skip DoorDash tonight, you don’t need yet another pair of yoga pants, put it in the kitty.
Look, but Don’t Touch
Even if you are not ready, looking at homes will give you incentive and inspiration, plus, it’s fun! It will give you a good idea of loves and undesirables. It will also give you a goal financially. Are you looking at $150K houses or $250K? I find that the amount of homes I look at bring me to certain conclusions like, “Hmm, seems the renovation work being done in this particular area isn’t very good” or “it’s the same kitchen over and over again!” You might decide that new construction is the way to go. Here are a few tips when you start out.
Go to open houses. Two reasons: You get ideas. You might see something that’s desirable in a home that you may not have seen before. You may have thought you wanted an open floor plan, but then you have discovered a formal dining room with pocket doors is quite lovely. This is a good way to test out all those things and get inspired without feeling pressure to buy. You can go in and be breezy with a “just looking” attitude. The second reason being if you don’t have a realtor, it’s a good way to interview and get a feel for some with casual conversation. I like to tell people finding a good fit is like finding a good date, if they are easy to talk to, approachable and most importantly knowledgeable, those are good options. Bring a notebook or something to take notes, video, take photos and grab business cards while you’re there so you can look back and add to your vision boards.
Bring a contractor or someone who knows construction with you if you can. This way you can learn what is good construction and what to watch out for when you are investing your money. Some realtors are good at pointing these things out, but some may not have enough experience regarding house builds or renovation features, such as quality, so sometimes these things get overlooked. They might also have insight on costs, especially if you are looking at an older home that’s in your price range but needs some work.
Look in unfamiliar neighborhoods. This doesn’t work for everyone if you are looking for a particular school district per se, but some of these districts are large and sometimes certain subdivisions get overlooked. I love exploring hidden neighborhoods because you never know what gems you can find in them. Take time to walk in them, talk to the neighbors, and see what’s around that could add to your living experience.
Get in the mindset that not every home is going to be a brand new or a complete renovation. Remember when people used to buy houses that other people use to live in? I think some people have gotten used to seeing renovated homes as the standard in homebuying. You could be missing out on homes that have a lot of character and ability to be worked with if you are only looking at reno homes. I showed a couple an old 70’s style ranch they thought would be hilarious to see. It turned out to be the exact floor plan they were looking for with some cool features that could be showcased with a little work. They were pleasantly surprised about the possibilities of a lower priced un-renovated home.
Are you excited now? I am! I can’t wait to put my plan in place. Sometimes it takes just a little hope and imagination to fulfill a dream, an investment, a change. And as always, let me know when you get started, I’m happy to guide your way!
Pass the Gravy, the Year is a Bit Dry
I’m giving thanks to an unlikely source this year…
It’s about that time of year again where we thank our people and we express our gratitude for the things we have. I think it should be practiced everyday — saying thanks, but I know this holiday is reserved for such appreciations. I find it to be a day of mourning really, but I can also find the light of being with family…hm, yeah this year is looking a little slim in that department. I’m basically going to make a nice meal for my immediate family and give blessings to those who have given and sacrificed a lot so that we may eat, drink, and be merry.
There are many things we can be grateful for at Thanksgiving. As I will gaze upon a leafless table this year, missing my Aunts and cousins as we battle for the most backhanded compliments, and my fiancé struggles to translate the abundance of conversations in Spanish around him. “They are talking about me, aren’t they?” I will zone out and continue to imagine a Manhattan waiting for me down a long gravel road. I’ve never been one for holidays, or getting together with family for that matter. I end up exhausted, feeling bad for myself or pissed off. Thanksgiving in particular is not my favorite of American traditions, however I love a day off of work.
This year will be quite different, for when the time comes to give thanks, i will be grateful for an unlikely source — Covid. Now before you gasp in disapproval, or want to hand me to the loony bin, hear me out. Sometimes Aunt ‘Rona needs to come in and upset the table on its end so we look at the mess we need to clean up. I don’t think there is any denying that we have been given an emotional, financial, occupational, mental and historical mess this time year. We’ve been routinely sitting at the same table for so long that we pass the potatoes with assembly line precision, that the taste of turkey, cranberries, and yams seem to have no difference. Now, this American tradition we hold so dear has literally become — dangerous, I cannot miss the irony here.
So while I’ll miss the three separate trips to families homes, the incessant need for my Aunt to comment on my weight, love life, or dress, or my step-father’s niece showcasing her recent “augmentation” at the dinner table, colorful as it all is, I’m thankful for the disorder Aunt Rona has made. As I will look down the table from my first sitting at its head, I would like to bow my head and be truly grateful for these truths:
Thank you, Covid, for time. Time to do more physical activity which had not been present in the last five years. Time to take walks and call my distanced dad and brother more frequently which I take for granted sometimes. Time to text my family overseas to send a little gif or meme and say hello. Time to educate myself in subjects I’ve always been interested in, but never found the time to read about. Time to explore my city and my state finding hidden gems everywhere. Time to save money for the home I’ve always wanted. Time to do my job better and be more creative. Time to bring my Aunt to her doctor’s appointments and get her groceries. Time for road trips and new adventures. Time to reconnect with long lost friends that I’ve loved from afar. Time to love my neighbors by helping them take care of their homes and our neighborhood. Time to purge and cleanse the past. And mostly, time to dream. Time to dream about my future and my quality of life.
Thank you, Covid for bringing lasagna to the table.
I truly believe that chaos comes before peace. There are so many things I can be grateful for including my clients I’ve had an opportunity to build relationships with, and while they get a seat at the table, there are others we should show our utmost appreciation for:
Our exhausted healthcare workers. I have friends on the frontline and I do not think they have had to work harder in their lives. We must continue to give them praise for the work they are doing.
Our educators. I think we’ve seen the challenge they’ve been given and their dedication to our children is apparent. They deserve a lot more than they’ve been given.
Our neighbors. The kindness which has stemmed from this time is remarkable. From delivered goods to mowing lawns to walking pets, it has been nice to receive and give these acts in such a dark time.
So, thank you Covid, as I show respect and honor to those who were here before us and those who have contributed to the well being of others and this planet, let us not forget the true essence of home for the holidays. Let’s be grateful for those moments we take for granted and let’s take this time to work on our progression so that we may all sit together again in peace. Now pass the rolls, it’s cheat day, we have 4 seasons of The Crown to binge and let’s be truly thankful for the one thing I think we can all agree on — this year being almost over.
How to Cozy Up This Season
Warm up your home and get ready for hibernation season with these cozy ideas…
You wouldn’t think Winter was right around the corner with this glorious weather we’ve been having here in RVA, but it will arrive at some point. Take this time to get your home ready for the holidays and the hibernation period by doing these few things to cozy up the place:
Get your firewood now! I have a feeling people are going to be hunkering down this season so get that wood quick for those crisp evenings by the fire pit and those cold winter nights by the fireplace.
Get some blankets for binging. Check out this warm and fuzzy list.
Purchase some door draft stoppers so you can save on that heating bill!
Get some cozy slippers so those tootsies will be warm all winter long!
Update your bedding with darker linens and add some plush blankets.
Change up your family pics to include some apple or pumpkin picking or playing in the snow.
Soften up your indoor lighting, as the nights start earlier, it will help relax and keep the stress away.
Add some scented holiday candles around the house, consider cloves, oranges and peppermint as options.